It’s the 3 Little Things: Better Mornings Edition

September 12th, 2014

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Happy Friday! Geesh, sorry about the Charlie Brown edition last week, but thank you guys for your encouraging words and prayers. When my mom called me on Saturday she insisted I go to the doctor. And, yes, I am a 36 year-old woman who still needs her mother’s encouragement to go to the doctor. Turned out I had both a sinus infection and a raging ear infection. Lesson learned, always listen to your mother. One round of antibiotics later and I am feeling like a whole new woman. I was also happy to hear that I had not visited the doctor since last September so that is a pretty good track run! Go me!

Better Mornings

This edition is going to be about some things that are making my mornings better. I took this shot on Instagram to share a little bit about my progression towards a better morning. I am lucky and very unlucky when it comes to my mornings. Unlucky in the fact that I have to get a middle school kid on the bus by 6:30, but lucky in the fact that I am having productive and happy mornings thanks to getting up so much earlier.

Here are some things that are making me happy this morning.

She Reads Truth

She Reads Truth

I don’t talk a lot about religion on here, but faith is an important part of our family life.  I have fallen off the wagon, so to speak, in diving into my Bible on my own and relying on Sunday sermons to power my weeks. It is usually in the Fall that I am seeking something to fill the void in my day.

Here is the honest truth. Working at home is a beautiful thing and it can be very isolating especially when you find yourself alone at home with no adults or even children to talk to for the day. There are days where the only interaction I have with anyone is at the gym  which isn’t good for someone who loves constant noise in her life.  I wouldn’t change my job for the world, but I definitely find myself seeking something when I feel a little empty and I am feeling empty.

She Reads Truth is a free devotional series that I am doing to get back into the daily discipline of reading my Bible again. You can download the app or subscribe to the emails to get the latest devotion. The lessons are real, they are applicable, and they are current.  I had never read Hosea before so I decided to read that series and, boy, could it fit me more?  It’s all about being an unfaithful servant…which is ME.

I think God might be telling me something in these morning chats with Him and maybe I needed that silence and loneliness to find Him again.

One Line a Day Journal

One Line A Day

I struggle with journaling, but since I was getting my mornings back on track, I wanted to make this a priority.  Have you heard me talk about my One Line a Day journal? It is one of my favorite things. One page holds five years of memories, giving you the chance to see how your day changes from year-to-year. My biggest struggle is at the end of the day, the last thing I want to do is jot down my thoughts on the day. I am exhausted (see bus time above) and all I want to do is watch mindless television or read a book.

In the morning, after much coffee, is a great time for me to journal so I just jot down my thoughts from the previous day which works much better for me and makes me really happy that I am finally putting pen to paper again. You have to make good habits make sense to your life and this just makes sense.

The best part is that this little journal costs less than $10, but can give you FIVE YEARS of joy.

Gallery Wall Ideas

My Gallery Wall

For two years this wall has bugged me and every morning when I would come down the stairs I would see it and wonder how I could finish my gallery wall. I am a slow decorator because I want things to have meaning in my home, but I just didn’t know what to do with this wall. I finally finished it and this is the first thing I see when I come down the steps and it makes me so dang happy.

Gallery Wall Ideas

Gallery Wall Ideas

Gallery Wall Ideas

After organizing my photos this week, I updated the prints with some of my favorite shots that I took this year. I added this free printable and this free printable to the space to round out the corners.

Gallery Wall Ideas

Gallery Wall Ideas

My favorite things on the wall though are the special things that make us, “us.” I hung my great-grandmother’s biscuit cutter that she used to make biscuits for us each morning when we would stay with her in the summers on the farm. My husband’s grandfather was quite the ping pong player and his ping pong paddle (with his name handwritten on it) hangs on the wall to honor him. The, “It Is Well,” hymn (from this AMAZING Etsy shop owner)  is my absolute favorite and one I loved to BELT OUT (as only a girl like this can do!) at church so I hung this print on the wall.

I also love this beach photo that my hubby had snapped with my phone when we were in Saugatuck that I transferred into watercolor using the Waterlogue app. All those things make this wall oh-so-us.

Happy, happy!

And if that doesn’t cut it- cut a rug to this adorable video with your kids.

 

Three Things I Wore From My Fashion Capsule (note the transition from heat wave to Fall- yay!). Grab more inspiration on my Fashion Capsule Pin Board.

bow top + black a-line skirt + mint belt

Gap Black Skirt (purchased second hand on Twice)/Ann Taylor Loft Pink Print Collared Shirt (purchased second hand on Twice)/ Mint Belt (owned- Target)/Pink Sandals (Owned-see here for details!)

belted coral t-shirt + rolled jeans + nude flats

Mossimo Short Sleeve Coral Shirt (purchased- Target)/Seven Skinny Jeans (owned- Flourish Boutique)/Nude Ballet Flats (owned- Gap)/ Bow Belt (owned- Ann Taylor Loft)

cozy sweater + long tank + black leggings + brown boots

Free People White Cowl Neck Sweater (owned- Flourish Boutique)/ The Essential Leggings in Black (owned- Flourish Boutique)/ Boots (owned- see details here!)

3 Things YOU Loved This Week (you, lover of MomAdvice things, you!)

Here are our top 3 posts this week!

Gluten-Free Broccoli Grape Harvest Salad

How to Make Glow-In-The-Dark Jell-O

DIY Minecraft Costume Ideas

*this post may contain affiliate links- I only recommend what I love though. Check out past editions of  It’s the 3 Little Things

Now it’s your turn! What’s making you happy this week?

Freebie Friday September 12, 2014

September 12th, 2014

freebie friday Happy Freebie Friday, everyone! We would like to thank Couponing 101 for assisting us with our freebies each week for loads of deals, savings, and freebies!

This week on MomAdvice, Mary is sharing 5 ways to date your husband in the fall that takes advantage of all the season has to offer. And I’m showing a terrific way to pamper your visitors with a diy guest basket with some beautiful free printables {created by the uber-talented Sarah Milne} and sharing my review of a great new photo service and giveaway, ThisLife, from Shutterfly, so hurry over to enter!  I also have a terrific interview with Rebecca Rotert about her debut novel, Last Night at the Blue Angel that you’ll want to check out. On this week’s edition of  It’s the 3 Little Things I’m sharing what’s making me happy and hope you’ll share yours, too!

Our regular feature,  Amy’s Notebook, is of course filled with lots of inspiring DIY, food, decorating and craft ideas, and be sure to check out all the contests you can enter on our weekly round-up of great giveaways!

Have a great weekend, everyone!

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Food & Drink
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This Week’s Freebie Events: September 13 - 19
13th - Barnes & Noble: Join the storytime featuring Where The Wild Things Are. Time varies by location.
13th - Lakeshore Learning: Create a Build Your Name Apple, 11 am – 3 pm
13th - Lowes: Build Binoculars, 10 am
19th - Krispy Kreme: Free Doughnuts when you Dress or Talk Like a Pirate
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We Will Never Forget

September 11th, 2014

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Giveaway & Review: ThisLife by Shutterfly

September 10th, 2014

How to Be a Better Family Historian: Tips For Storing & Organizing Your Family Photos

This post is sponsored by Shutterfly, Inc. in partnership with Resourceful Mom Media.

I have been working a long time on my storytelling through photos.  It has been an evolution as I master my camera and work on capturing more authentic moments in our life.  I go through stages where I rely completely on my DSLR and then periods in our life where I want the swiftness of a quicker capture with my photos. I am a fantastic giver of moments on Facebook and Instagram. What I am terrible at though is organizing, sorting, and actually printing our precious moments.

I got the opportunity to test drive an amazing photo service called ThisLife by Shutterfly that I know you all are going to be nuts about it because it helps us be a better family historian gathering all of your life moments, organizing, and sorting them all into one spot. I want to share my experience with you and how I brought our Grand Rapids holiday to life.

How to Be a Better Family Historian: Tips For Storing & Organizing Your Family Photos

Our family took an amazing holiday trip this year to Grand Rapids to celebrate Christmas and my daughter’s 8th birthday. These are two special holidays that are a mere five days apart. We ditched the presents to each other (a bold move when you are a kid) and rented a beautiful home in Grand Rapids, Michigan and visited every attraction we could squeeze in together.

How to Be a Better Family Historian: Tips For Storing & Organizing Your Family Photos

How to Be a Better Family Historian: Tips For Storing & Organizing Your Family Photos

How to Be a Better Family Historian: Tips For Storing & Organizing Your Family Photos

How to Be a Better Family Historian: Tips For Storing & Organizing Your Family Photos

How to Be a Better Family Historian: Tips For Storing & Organizing Your Family Photos

How to Be a Better Family Historian: Tips For Storing & Organizing Your Family Photos

How to Be a Better Family Historian: Tips For Storing & Organizing Your Family Photos

How to Be a Better Family Historian: Tips For Storing & Organizing Your Family Photos

It was in the midst of an ice storm that we happened to make our trip out there.  It was an ice rink outside as we had to gingerly take a step with our arms linked tightly together, just to try to get down the steps of our lake cottage. My husband had an iron grip on the wheel, color drained from his face,  as we made it out in the treacherous conditions to give our kids the best little holiday ever.

And it was.

You can see & just feel the joy in these moments.

I set my phone aside and really dove in on this trip with my camera. I was so proud of these pictures.

I have all of these beautiful and amazing moments and guess what I did with them?

Nothing.

I am a great storyteller of moments in Facebook, I might be able to grab your eye on Instagram with pictures, but I don’t do anything with these for myself. Instead of sitting on a couch flipping through these moments with my grandkids someday, I will be pulling them over to my computer and trying to search through my folders and feeds to show them what their mom and dad used to look like. It isn’t the picturesque family moment that I want to share with them. That is where ThisLife by Shutterfly comes into play. I am going to show you how this can help you be a better historian no matter what device or sharing platform you use and how I finally took these images off my computer and brought them to life for our family.

ThisLife App Tutorial

As storytellers of our family, we now use multiple platforms to share our stories. These moments can quickly become jumbled or lost and it is difficult to remember where and how we have shared our images. ThisLife is an amazing subscription-based service that can quickly organize and sort your moments by date, making it quick and easy to share your family’s stories. Not only does it gather the images from your computer, but it gathers them from the places you are socially sharing in the same dated format. Do you share on Instagram, Facebook, Flickr, Picasa, Shutterfly, or SmugMug? Link your account and it will grab and sort all of your images in one location. Half the battle is in the sorting and, let’s face it, very few moms I know have time to gather and incorporate all their moments on all the places they are sharing socially. This grabs them and sorts them with ease.

ThisLife App Tutorial

Once the images are all sorted, it makes it so much easier to begin sharing your family’s story. You can actually create a Story from the images and then share it with your family and friends through email or by sharing a link to your story like this one I created of our family vacation. This is so great for grandparents or for anyone who doesn’t want to share their images publicly. You simply select the images (that have already been sorted for you) and then click Stories and add a New Story to create a format for sharing groups of moments with your family and friends.

ThisLife App Tutorial

A search under people sorts all of the people in your life alphabetically and tells you how many pictures you have of them. Want to make a photo album for a friend that’s moving away of all your years together? No problem! Want to put together an album of just one child? Easy peasy. Want to see how much better you look as you age and wow yourself? I totally did that.

ThisLife App Tutorial

Do you travel to exotic locations (more exotic than, say, Grand Rapids?)? Do you vacation every summer in Nantucket? I will be a good friend and tell you that you can sort your images by places and make albums of all of these fun things that you are doing that I am not doing.

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ThisLife offers several  different membership plans, with additional options for larger collections.

ThisLife App Tutorial

Of course, the beauty in this for this amazing storyteller who doesn’t share her stories, is that you can print these photos out in a book and actually have something to show your grandkids someday. Select all your images that you want (all perfectly grouped) and then click Create to transfer them over to Shutterfly to make an album. Add captions so you don’t forget the treacherous ice storm you weathered for the perfect family holiday or that root beer tasting that you did with your kids that they couldn’t stop talking about. Get it all in an album and ship it right to your door to remember those moments forever. You can check out the album I made below using their Modern template.

 

Click here to view this photo book larger

Now that I have shown you how wonderful this service is, I am excited to be giving away one (1) standard subscription to ThisLife so you can be the ultimate storyteller of moments in your family. You can enter this giveaway by following the instructions below in the Rafflecopter widget!

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Check out some other fun ways you can use ThisLife for your photos from a few of my favorite blogging friends! 

This post is sponsored by Shutterfly, Inc. in partnership with Resourceful Mom Media. I have received compensation for my time and a membership to ThisLife to share my honest thoughts and opinions on their service.

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Amy’s Notebook 09.10.14

September 10th, 2014

Hello Fall Printable via Nest of Posies

Source: Nest of Posies

 

Loving this hello beautiful fall printable.

Glam-rock chain cuffs would be a fun DIY for my fashion capsule project.

Frugal and adorable bobby pin storage.

Love this peek at a barn restoration (and the realness of updating your space).

How to ask your kids about their school day – I need this!

Adorable crocheted boat shoes.

I love this removable sweater lampshade cover.

Slow Cooker Chicken Burrito Bowls via The Kitchn

Source: The Kitchn

 

Slow cooker chicken burrito bowls- it’s like Chipotle at home.

World’s cutest baby shower idea.

This floral infinity scarf made from a thrifted dress is a great upcycle.

How to lengthen and embellish your shorts.

I’d love to learn calligraphy!

Are you tired of being a stuff manager? Me too!

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I hope you enjoyed our notebook, a collection of gathered links to DIY crafts, food projects, and thrifty ways to spruce up your home. Nothing brings me more joy then to highlight other fabulous bloggers. Follow me on Pinterest for daily inspiration!

 

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Make a Guest Room Welcome Basket (With 5 FREE Printables)

September 9th, 2014

Make a Guest Room Welcome Basket (With 5 FREE Printables)

This post is sponsored on behalf of BHG at Walmart.

With the holidays just around the corner, now is a great time to begin preparing your home for guests. Since we live in a smaller home, we have never had the luxury of having a guest room in our house since every inch of our home is just filled with…well, us. Recently though we finished our shed into a bonus room and realized that this is actually the perfect space to share with our guests when they come to visit.  It makes for the perfect guest room because you can come and go as you please with your very own space to escape from our wild and crazy family, since it is separate from our living space.

As part of the BHG Live Better Network, I am partnering with them this month to showcase an idea for welcoming guests in your home that you can create with products from BHG that are available at Walmart.  Since we don’t have a dedicated guest room for just this purpose,  I thought it would be fun to create a guest room welcome basket that you could tuck away in your basement storage or a linen closet to share with your guests when they arrive.  There is no need to make an addition to that house when you have a basket prepared of guest essentials that you can bring out when the unexpected house guest arrives.

Make a Guest Room Welcome Basket (With 5 FREE Printables)

Pictured Above: Better Homes & Gardens 400 Thread Count Egyptian Cotton Sheet Sets ($39.88- $69.88)/Better Homes & Gardens Large Chicken Wire Basket ($12.44)/ Please Do Not Disturb Sign (FREE- see below), Better Homes & Gardens 8×10 Frame ($9.97)/ Febreeze Home Collection Almond Sugar Candle ($11.97)/ Better Homes & Gardens White Bath Towels ($5.88)/ Be Our Guest 8×10 Printable (FREE- see below)

Make a Guest Room Welcome Basket (With 5 FREE Printables)

Make a Guest Room Welcome Basket (With 5 FREE Printables)

Make a Guest Room Welcome Basket (With 5 FREE Printables)

One of my favorite things about staying at a hotel is the plush sheets, fresh linens, the do not disturb sign I can hang on my door knob for privacy, and the welcoming touches and amenities that hotels offer. You can create that same experience for your very own guests at home with a few of the thoughtful touches that I have pulled together for our welcome basket.  Fresh white linens, a welcome sign you can display on a nightstand or table, a do not disturb sign for your door, plush white sheets, and a delicious smelling candle complete the touches in this lined chicken wire basket for a guest to enjoy when they come to visit.

Make a Guest Room Welcome Basket (With 5 FREE Printables)

You can find all of these special touches from the BHG product line at Walmart stores. A simple gathering of these items creates a sweet & thoughtful guest room basket instantly. Other sweet offerings could include chocolates, bedtime teas, a favorite good read or the morning paper, and a note to let them know how excited you are to have them as a guest. Think of all of the things you appreciate when you are a guest somewhere and include them in your basket to let your guests know how much you appreciate them.

Add our, “Be our Guest,” printable to a BHG 8×10 frame (priced at less than $10) and it really adds that special warm welcome that I hope we can achieve when hosting friends and family in our home.

Make a Guest Room Welcome Basket (With 5 FREE Printables)

To help your guest feel warmly welcomed, my amazing designer & contributor, Sarah Milne with sarah m style, has created these amazing printables that you can print and share in your basket for your guests! Aren’t these BEAUTIFUL and such a sweet touch for a welcome basket for guests?

Grab These FREE Printables For Your Guest Basket

Make a Guest Room Welcome Basket (With 5 FREE Printables)

Download this Printable HERE

Make a Guest Room Welcome Basket (With 5 FREE Printables)

Download this Printable HERE

Make a Guest Room Welcome Basket (With 5 FREE Printables)

Download this Printable HERE

Make a Guest Room Welcome Basket (With 5 FREE Printables)

Download this Printable HERE

Make a Guest Room Welcome Basket (With 5 FREE Printables)

Download this Printable HERE

 

What are some special touches you love to offer you guests? Any tips for families that don’t have a dedicated guest room? Feel free to share your tips below!

In accordance with the FTC Guidelines, I am disclosing that I received compensation from BHG at Walmart for my time and participation in the BHG Live Better Network. Although we have material connection to BHG, any publicly stated opinions of BHG and their products remain my own.

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Apron Full of Giveaways 09.09.14

September 9th, 2014

Bug Apron via Etsy

Source: Jassy Kitchen,  $29.00

 

Welcome to our Apron Full of Giveaways! I hope everyone is having a great week this week! As we do each week, here is our round-up of giveaways for our readers. We hope that this is beneficial to you and your family! Please let us know if you guys win anything- I love to hear the success stories!

Below are the contest links-if you are hosting a contest please link it up below. Sorry, we are not giving away the aprons just showcasing them! Please put your site name and then what type of contest you are hosting. For example, “MomAdvice (Kid’s Movies).”

Good luck to each of you!

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5 Ways to Date Your Husband This Fall

September 8th, 2014

From our marriage & parenting contributor, Mary Carver.

NIKON D700, AF 50mm f/1.4G f/1.8, 1/400, ISO 200, 50mm

Fall is my favorite season. October, in particular, is my favorite month; it’s the month when I met my husband and when my oldest daughter was born. But I’m pretty partial to the entire leaf-changing, sweater-wearing, pumpkin-craving time of year.

And even though it can also be one of the busiest times of year (leading up to the holidays, which always take the cake as The Very Busiest of All), there’s just something about the combination of blue skies and crisp nights, colorful leaves and spicy breads that makes me want to plan a date or two with my husband.

Unfortunately, my husband’s and my schedules don’t always cooperate with each other – or with our budget. So sometimes date planning takes a little more creativity than checking the local movie times and rifling through my stack of nearly expired restaurant coupons.

I sat down and did a little brainstorming, and today I’m sharing five ways to date your husband this fall.

5 Ways to Date Your Husband in the Fall

1. Revert to childhood.

Take a look at all those fall bucket lists on Pinterest – and pick a few of the activities to save for the grown-ups. Carve some pumpkins together or pick some apples. Drink cider or jump in the leaves after the kids are in bed.

We know several couples who attend a Halloween costume party – in full costume – every single year. Why not? Why not make a fall tradition of being silly together?!

2. Walk down memory lane.

Visit your old campus for an afternoon. Take in a football game if you can! (This would be perfect for us, since I actually met my husband at one of our high school football games!) Go for a drive or a stroll or a hike, and reminisce a bit. (Remember, making – and keeping – memories can help you make the most of your marriage.)

Or pull out those dusty photo albums and recreate the poses and photos from your early days of dating or marriage. (Bonus points if you use a collage of the old and the new pics for your Christmas card!)

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3. Try something new.

Cook something new for your dinner in, or check out the farmer’s market or antique shops in the next town over. Go to a play, or watch your favorite band – or maybe one you’ve never heard of! – in concert.

This November, my husband and I are going to a book signing for one of our favorite comedians – something we’ve never done together!

4. Act like a tourist.

When we first moved into our house, I decided to look up every fall festival in the metropolitan area. We never made it to the chili cook-off, but the sidewalk chalk festival was amazing and the Renaissance fair remains one of my favorites today.

Find your city’s visitor center’s website and pick an event or attraction you’ve never seen, and go together!

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5. Get prepared and be spontaneous.

Fall can be a hectic season. And sometimes plans don’t work out; kids get sick or someone has to work overtime, and date nights get canceled. So what if we were prepared for those last-minute realizations that we have some free time?

I KNOW. It doesn’t happen often. But when it DOES … grab it! And if you’ve taken time to brainstorm easy dates, grab your “go bag,” too.

What am I talking about? I’m talking about tossing some paper plates and napkins, a bag of chips or trail mix or cookies, some water bottles and a blanket in a basket that you keep in a closet or the trunk of your car. Then when you discover a kid-free afternoon – or even an unscheduled lunch hour, you’re nearly ready for a picnic or a hike.

Next time I find myself with a few extra minutes to talk to my husband (this will happen someday … right?!), I’m going to ask him to brainstorm with me for fun, creative dates. That way, when we find time together that we weren’t expecting, we won’t be restricted to what movies are out and when the next one starts.

Of course, if all else fails, you can always do some early Christmas shopping. Together time and crossing something off your to-do list? Win-win.

How do YOU date your husband in the fall?

{Photos by Sean McGrath, Shaun Anyl and Seth Lemmons}

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Sundays With Writers: Last Night at the Blue Angel by Rebecca Rotert

September 7th, 2014

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Happy Sunday, friends! I hope your day is filled with great books and good coffee today. This week I have the pleasure of interviewing debut novelist Rebecca Rotert about her first novel Last Night at the Blue Angel. I will say that this one is racier than some of the books I have featured here in the past so if that isn’t your cup of coffee, so-to-speak, I understand.  The storytelling was so good in this one though and I had so many questions for the author after I finished that I wanted to share it with you in our Sundays With Writers series. I am not shying away from this book- I think it a beautifully told coming-of-age story and the characters are rich and vivid even if I didn’t always like their choices.

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Set against the backdrop of the early 1960s Chicago jazz scene, a highly ambitious and stylish literary debut that combines the atmosphere and period detail of Amor Towles’ Rules of Civility with the emotional depth and drama of The Memory Keeper’s Daughter, about a talented but troubled singer, her precocious ten-year-old daughter, and their heartbreaking relationship.

It is the early 1960s, and Chicago is a city of uneasy tensions—segregation, sexual experimentation, free love, the Cold War—but it is also home to one of the country’s most vibrant jazz scenes. Naomi Hill, a singer at the Blue Angel club, has been poised on the brink of stardom for nearly ten years. Finally, her big break arrives—the cover of Look magazine. But success has come at enormous personal cost. Beautiful and magnetic, Naomi is a fiercely ambitious yet extremely self-destructive woman whose charms are irresistible and dangerous for those around her. No one knows this better than Sophia, her clever ten-year-old daughter.

For Sophia, Naomi is the center of her universe. As the only child of a single, unconventional mother, growing up in an adult world, Sophia has seen things beyond her years and her understanding. Unsettled by her uncertain home life, she harbors the terrible fear that the world could end at any moment, and compulsively keeps a running list of practical objects she will need to reinvent once nuclear catastrophe strikes. Her one constant is Jim, the photographer who is her best friend, surrogate father, and protector. But Jim is deeply in love with Naomi—a situation that adds to Sophia’s anxiety.

Told from the alternating perspectives of Sophia and Naomi, their powerful and wrenching story unfolds in layers, revealing Sophia’s struggle for her mother’s love with Naomi’s desperate journey to stardom and the colorful cadre of close friends who shaped her along the way.

I loved this book so much more than I had expected. This is a coming-of-age story placed in the sixties focused on the story of a daughter who constantly lives in the shadow of her mother’s stardom and her need to be the center of attention. We are able, as readers, to read how she evolved into this self-absorbed woman, while witnessing the heartache of her daughter lurking in the shadows of her life. There are beautiful plot twists in this one and I never saw the ending coming.

After writing the author and reading her answers, my only regret is that this coffee with her is done virtually and not in person. I hope you will enjoy the interview as much as I enjoyed reading and sharing it with you today!

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You chose the turbulent sixties era and the city of Chicago for the setting of your debut novel. What was it about this time period and city that captured your attention for the setting of your book?

I seem to be thinking about race, class, sexuality and gender all of the time.  ALL of the time.  Whatever problem or issue I’m trying to sort out in my head…I go back in time to examine turning points or cultural shifts in an attempt to identify what was at play, what happened, what changed.  In this vein, I find myself in the 50’s and 60’s a lot.  In some ways it’s very personal. I’m often asking myself, What did the territory look like before I landed on it (I was born in ’71)? I want to understand the culture that created my parents and their generation, and the boom generation, and us. What wounds did we inherit? What unfinished business? So many questions…

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Richard Nickel (Source: Out of Chicago where you can see his amazing architectural photography)

Jim, a struggling photographer, was one of my favorite characters in the book. You based him upon a photographer named Richard Nickel who captured architectural photos. How did you happen upon his story and photography?  Was he the first character you really started fleshing out or did you develop him later as you wrote it?

Jim was there from the very beginning but he was, like, Jim 2.0.  I did a lot of research in Chicago, kept running into these very interesting photographs, discovered the photographer was Nickel, researched him, fell in love with him, then came back to the drawing board and grafted him into Jim 2.0.

As a mom, I could not relate to Naomi’s choices and putting her own needs and desires before her child. Was it difficult to write some of these scenes particularly adult moments that Sophia witnesses when she is so small? How did you feel about Naomi?

Oof.  It was tough.  I swear there were scenes that were just…viscerally painful to write.  I sometimes asked myself, What would I do here? And then had Naomi do the opposite.  My feelings about her are complicated.  My reasoning behind allowing you to see some of her backstory was in order to cultivate some compassion for her. I don’t think Naomi has any idea what she’s doing.  She never learned. She sort of operates on desire and compulsion without taking into account consequences.  She doesn’t feel comfortable being a mother but she tries.  In the end, she chooses her art and her artist’s life over motherhood because she knows what she’s doing there. We all have Naomis in our lives…women we judge because WE would do it so much better.  They bring out our self-righteousness, which is of course a bar to all connection.  I wanted her to be galvanizing in this way and she is.

I understand that you are also a singer and songwriter, illustrating that you are a woman of many talents. How much of that background were you able to draw from to create Naomi? Have you also felt that hunger and struggle being a singer? Did this make Naomi more relatable to you?

In part, it was sheer laziness.  I know the vocabulary of performing well so I chose that as her art. And certainly I understand the hunger to make art; I’ve always had that in me. And I share with Naomi the feeling that art is often one of the few things that makes sense to me and that I’m good at. But in terms of fame, I just have no ambition whatsoever.  I know Box Turtles more ambitious than I.

My husband & I are obsessed with the jazz music from the ‘60’s and have quite the record collection going. What is your favorite song or artist from that era? Any in particular that you have Naomi sing that we should be hunting down for our record collection?

I love Mingus and Coltrane and Miles Davis. In terms of vocalists I’m crazy about Nina Simone and Jeanne Lee. In fact, Laura is named after the song/lyrics “Laura” from Jeanne Lee and Ran Blake’s album The Newest Sound Around.

A group I discovered during research, though not jazz, is The Boswell Sisters.  You’ve really got to listen to them if you’re not familiar.  Three harmonizing sisters in the 1930’s.   Go ahead and YouTube “Crazy People” to be delighted (see above!!).  Especially if you have, I don’t know, crazy people in your life.

Naomi’s love affair with Laura was brief, but ultimately shaped Naomi’s life journey. Is there any reason you didn’t have Naomi fall in love again with Laura later in the book and bring these two back together?

Ah, you are a savvy/intuitive reader, Amy. I DID bring them back together at the end but the more I worked on the end of the book, the more convinced I became that Naomi had to be alone at the end.  That she would get what she wanted but the price would be loneliness.  And Laura is strong. Naomi needs to…deserve her I feel.  And she doesn’t. Not yet.

Naomi has quite the parade of lovers and also learns her skills of being a lady from a very unlikely source. You did not seem to shy away from any topic- would you say that this book is provocative?

Um, I’ve been told it is.  It doesn’t feel at all provocative to me.  The next book, however…

You make a choice to do all dialogue in italics- why did you make this choice as a writer?

I’ve not yet described this well but today might be my lucky day….You know, when you put quotes around a line of text, you tell the reader, This is EXACTLY what was said….but so much of this book is about impression/memory/tone/perception/performance…I wanted there to be: Here’s what was said, yes, but also, Here’s what I heard/what I remember/what I tried to say…all those grey areas that color our sad efforts at human communication.  And everyone is performing in this book so a line of dialogue may represent an actual authentic feeling or thought but it may also be someone’s performance of a feeling/thought that may or may not be true.  So you see, all these sticky layers.  I guess I said to myself, Let’s put it in italics.

I will not say anything about the ending because I don’t want to spoil the book for our readers. Would you say you were pleased though with how this story wrapped up? Did you always envision this to be the ending for your book?

The exact ending, ie: last lines, came late in the process but the general ending I knew.  I would also say I could handle the end of this book because although the book ends, the story is to be continued.

If you could tell anyone to read one book (other than your own) what would that book be?

IMPOSSIBLE. I NEED TWO AT LEAST AMY! However, a book I have to read over and over is Anthony de Mello’s Awareness.  It’s not fiction.  It might even be called self-help (choke).  It reminds me of the troublesome human pitfalls that can really muck up our short  little jaunt on earth.  I also return to Duras’ The Lover over and over because it reminds me of longing and waking up to life. These are a few of my favorite things, as the song says.

 You can connect with Rebecca Rotert on GoodReads or on her website! I’m always thankful for these moments with writers and I hope you will pick up this amazing book! You can always connect with me on GoodReads,through our books section of our site, and you can read our entire Sundays With Writers series for more author profiles. Happy reading, friends!

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It’s the 3 Little Things: The Charlie Brown Edition

September 5th, 2014

It's the 3 Little Things

Oh, I want to bring the happy today, but I am feeling a bit like Charlie Brown. Things just didn’t go my way this week. I got the world’s most rotten cold, I haven’t slept in days thanks to a really annoying cough all night, and I felt overwhelmed this week with projects I had overpromised on. Since my attitude was so poor I felt underappreciated by everyone. They didn’t even see that just simple things like toasting bagels physically were hard for me. Running kids to activities when I can’t even hear because my head is so clogged and still asking about their day. Slogging my sad self to the grocery store to pull together a meal for unthankful people when I couldn’t turn my neck to even look down the aisle and see what was available.  The list goes on.

Sad Charlie Brown- Sigh.

I felt so bad that I didn’t even want to read a book, I just wanted to lay in bed, eyes barely open,  alternating episodes of Parenthood and Hoarding: Buried Alive so I could feel better about my personal clutter and life situation.  I am sure you wanted to come over here to listen to my griping about my first world problems, but it was just one of those weeks.  Sigh.

So this super edition is delivered Charlie Brown style (sad jazz hands!)

Bowl of Pho

My Only Source of Comfort

You would have never guessed I did theatre, would you? In all seriousness, if you haven’t experienced a big bowl of pho then you are missing one of the world’s best gluten-free comfort foods. Imagine the best bowl of chicken noodle soup you have ever eaten and then times it by two. That is what pho is. It is satisfying, you can dress it up however you like it, and it is the ultimate healing agent when I am feeling bad. In our town, THE place to be is Bowl of Pho. One regular sized bowl of chicken noodle soup will heal anything that troubles you.  I replaced my once a week coffee habit with a once a week soup habit.  When I travel, I call and pick this up on the way home to help settle my stomach on the way back from the airport.  When I am sick, I call sometimes twice to make sure I can flush out whatever is ailing me. This was a two bowl week and I don’t even have to leave my name anymore.

If there is one problem area in our budget it is probably my pho habit.

I could make it, but I won’t.

Neti Pot

My Only Source of Oxygen

The first time I used this Neti Pot it scared me almost as much as my epilator and you know that was terrifying. When you can’t breathe out of your miserable red nose, you will do anything especially at night when you want to sleep. I am a zombie on cold medication so I decided to give this a try and see if it could help me and it is the best thing in the world. Yes, I have read the horror stories, so use at your own risk.  And I do. It is the most disgusting, while simultaneously satisfying,  gift you can give yourself when you have a cold.  You don’t have to buy any extra solutions after you get one because you can make your own neti pot solution with salt & baking soda. If you suffer from allergies or colds, I can’t recommend this enough and it costs less than $20.

Appliance Hutch

My Only Exciting Activity- Moving a Microwave

I keep debating if we should go all out and redo our kitchen. Everything requires so much effort (and you know I am low on that this week). I decided to do some rearranging when I spotted this kitchen makeover and noticed the appliances in a built-in next to the refrigerator. I decided I would try and see if I could achieve that with my thrift store hutch and wouldn’t you know…it fits PERFECTLY. This is my new coffee corner and spot for my microwave which freed up a huge corner of my limited kitchen counter space and cost me zero dollars.

That was my only exciting activity this week. That and cleaning out two closets.

Three Things I Wore From My Fashion Capsule

This should be short and sweet- pajamas and workout gear where I pathetically tried to workout while sick (which was stupid). Here were three things I wore the week before to inspire me to do better next week.

crochet sweater + cami + rolled jeans + shooties

Black Crochet Sweater (owned- Flourish Boutique)/White Cami/Seven Skinny Jeans (owned- Flourish Boutique)/Madden Girl Shooties (Marshall’s)/Floral Belt (Owned-Target)/Mint Beads (Owned-Charming Charlies/Bangle- Forever 21

short sleeve shirt + chiffon skirt + braided belt

Mossimo Short Sleeve Coral Shirt (purchased- Target)/J. Crew Teal Silk Blend Skirt (purchased second hand on Twice)/Belt (Owned- Maurices)/Bracelet (Owned-Forever 21)- Outfit inspired by THIS PIN.

wine tank + crocheted mustard sweater + black leggings

(Yesterday. Powering through the sickness with caramel apple sangria)

Seamless Tank in Burgundy(owned- Flourish Boutique)/ Don’t Pull Me Down Mustard Sweater (purchased- Flourish Boutique)/The Essential Leggings in Black (owned- Flourish Boutique)/Bangle (owned- Forever 21)

3 Things YOU Loved This Week (you, lover of MomAdvice things, you!)

Here are our top 3 posts this week!

How to Dye a Faded Pair of Jeans

How to Make a Care Package for the Homeless 

Easy Burlap Wreath Tutorial

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Now it’s your turn! What’s making you happy this week?