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How to Create an Anniversary or Date Night Playlist

Monday, June 25th, 2018

How to Create an Anniversary or Date Night Playlist from MomAdvice.com

From our marriage & parenting contributor, Mary Carver.

This month my husband and I will celebrate our 19th wedding anniversary. And, thanks to my parents keeping our girls the weekend before the big day, we’ll actually get to celebrate with a night on the town.

Lest you think we are exciting and fancy, let me reassure you that “night on the town” really means eating dinner at Olive Garden, strolling around Target, and possibly renting a movie from Redbox. Still, any occasion – fancy night out, casual night at home, and everything in between – can be made a little more special with a playlist.

To help you do that, I’m going to walk you through my process for creating a playlist of songs that mean something to my husband and me – and just might create a romantic mood!

We’re going to talk about a set of decisions you’ll need to make before beginning, as well as how to pick the best songs for your list. And just in case it sparks your memory or creativity, I’ll share some of the songs that might make my own anniversary playlist!

How to Create an Anniversary or Date Night Playlist from MomAdvice.com

First up, decide what tools you’re going to use. Will your list be played on Spotify, iTunes, Amazon Music, or another site or app?

Next, choose a genre. While you and your husband might enjoy all types of music, a collection of songs works better when those songs have something in common (other than your emotional attachment to them). So you don’t have to commit to a dozen New Wave tunes from the 80s, but your songs should at least have the same feel to them.

Finally, decide how long you want the playlist to be. Is it just for the car ride to and from the restaurant? Does it need to last for an entire road trip? Will you only play it during dinner at home after the kids are in bed? Figure out an estimated time frame and select your songs accordingly.

And speaking of selecting songs, here are the types of songs I’d recommend for your anniversary or date night playlist:

What song was playing the night you met or on your first date?

For us this would be What’s Up by 4 Non Blondes or Kissed by a Rose by Seal. Hello, mid-90s!

What song makes you think of your dating days?

Dust on the Bottle by David Lee Murphy, It’s Your Love by Tim McGraw and Faith Hill, or anything by John Michael Montgomery, Tom Petty, the Eagles, or Boyz II Men – clearly this will be a challenge for that same genre step!

What song played when you got engaged, or makes you think of your engagement?

I was away at college during our engagement, so Save Tonight by Eagle-Eye Cherry and A Bad Goodbye by Clint Black and Wynonna make me think of that season of long-distance love.

What song(s) played at your wedding or wedding reception?

From This Moment by Shania Twain, You Are the Love of My Life by Sammy Kershaw, One Friend by Dan Seals, and I Know How the River Feels by Diamond Rio were our wedding songs. Yes, we went full country!

What song reminds you of your honeymoon?

You can interpret and answer that song any way you want to… (You could also choose a song that you both liked or that was popular during your days as newlyweds.)

How to Create an Anniversary or Date Night Playlist from MomAdvice.com

What song reflects a difficult time during your relationship?

Without a doubt, this would be Say Something by Great Big World for us. But since I can’t listen to that song now without tearing up, I might lean into the country sound and go with the just-as-fitting Hard to Love by Lee Brice.

What song reflects a season of reconnection or resurrection in your relationship?

I Hold On by Dierks Bentley is one of my favorites, because the lyrics talk about the good side of being stubborn – which is something it took my husband and me a long time to figure out!

What song(s) remind you of your children?

Since I can’t seem to escape the “gone country” theme my list is taking, I guess I’ll put I Love a Rainy Night by Eddie Rabbit and Elvira by The Oak Ridge Boys here. For some reason our girls got a huge kick out of those two songs for most of last year, and even the memory makes us chuckle now.

What current song makes you think of each other?

I don’t know if my husband likes it; I should probably ask him. But Greatest Love Story by Lanco – yes, I’m finishing strong with another country song – makes me think of him and our story every time I hear it.

This started out as a hypothetical idea for me, but thinking through all the songs that mean the most to my husband and me has me feeling nostalgic and lovey-dovey and just maybe like bursting into song. Clearly I’ll be making this playlist today! How about you?

What songs would be on your perfect anniversary or date night playlist?

Mary Carver is a writer, speaker, and recovering perfectionist. She lives for good books, spicy queso, and television marathons, but she lives because of God’s grace. Mary writes with humor and honesty about giving up on perfect and finding truth in unexpected places on her blog, MaryCarver.com. She is the author of Fast Talk & Faith: A 22-Day Devotional Inspired by Gilmore Girls and co-author of Choose Joy: Finding Hope & Purpose When Life Hurts.She is also a regular contributor to incourage.me and MothersofDaughters.com. Mary and her husband live in Kansas City with their two daughters.

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Amy’s Notebook 06.21.18

Thursday, June 21st, 2018

diy basket bag source

Transform a basket into the perfect summer tote.

I don’t have it all together and neither do you.

I am enjoying witnessing how she is breaking the traditions.

This is a productivity hack that I can get behind.

I have no idea why, but heist movies are my new jam. Also, if you haven’t seen this, watch it. It’s absolutely brilliant.

Painted Patio Tiles source

This is inspiring me to want to paint some patio pavers for a fresh look. So awesome!

Tips for a chore I still need to tackle.

21 simple things to do when you are bored instead of surfing the internet.

I *may* have worn this shirt three times this week. It’s the perfect blouse to tie on with a dress or skirt.

I stayed up way too late with this thriller this week. Honestly, it was a mixed bag.

bubble gum slime recipe source

My daughter would love making this bubble gum slime recipe. Also, give our fluffy recipe a spin too!

I’d love to watch these fifteen Anthony Bourdain episodes this summer.

I hate washing my hair so I loved these tips for extending times between your shampoo times.

26 hair styling hacks for people battling a chronic illness.

I’ve become obsessed with solo movies and I’m not ashamed.

This was your favorite recipe this month. I hope you love it as much as our family!

Are you as obsessed with this show as much as me? I love these design tips (and where he’s sourcing his style).

Painting the exterior on my home is on my house to-do bucket list so this post was really inspiring.

virgin mojito source

I made the switch to mocktails during the week and I can’t wait to try this virgin mojito recipe. YUM!

Speaking of mocktails, I found this piece on being sober curious really compelling.

These diy moroccan planters look adorable and totally doable.

I couldn’t love this printable more– if you haven’t seen this documentary, add it to your summer watch list!

I hope you guys are loving these as much as me because this was your top purchase this week!

Next up in my book stack!

Not loving the news that home ec classes are fading out of our education system.

I hope you enjoyed our notebook, a collection of gathered links to DIY crafts, food projects, thrifty ways to spruce up your home, and thoughtful reads. Nothing brings me more joy than to highlight other fabulous bloggers. Follow me on Pinterest for daily inspiration! Please note, there are affiliate links that do help support our site- thank you! xoxo

7 Tips for Hosting a Successful Book Club

Tuesday, June 19th, 2018

7 tips for a Successful Book Club from MomAdvice.com Thanks to my sponsor St Martin’s Press, I’m sharing about Kristin Hannah’s newest page-turner!

I joined my first book club when my children were small and I remember both how rewarding it felt to use my brain again and the challenges of carving time out to read. The beauty in being a part of that group though was that it pushed me to read books that were outside of my typical genre.

Historical fiction, for example, had never been on my radar until I joined a club.

Ironically, it is now my favorite genre.

Have you thought about hosting a book club? I have had the pleasure of hosting a local group and an online group and today I wanted to share 7 tips and strategies I’ve found for hosting a successful book club.

7 Tips for Hosting a Successful Book Club

1. Create Your Book Club Circle

Book clubs can be an opportunity to cultivate existing friendships or an opportunity to widen your net. If you don’t have an existing set of close friends, this can be a great way to get to know people from other contexts of your life.  Consider starting a group through your church, with your neighborhood friends, a mom’s group, with your coworkers,  your gym buddies, or as a way to get to know other moms at your child’s school.

Keep in mind, this club does not need to be just women either because men can add another dynamic to your book club discussions. If you have couples that you love to spend time with, for example, consider asking if they might like to meet up monthly for dinner and a book chat. I know that some of my best book discussions have happened when enjoying an evening with friends.

2.  Have an Organized Kickoff Meeting

The quickest way for a book club to fizzle out is to not have a plan and get your members involved.  With everyone’s busy schedules, it can be difficult to get a committed group and keep them committed for an entire year (or more).

In the past, our mimosa kickoff usually starts in September, once the kids have headed back to school. With a little more time in our schedules (sort of), it gives us a chance to regroup and make book selections. I ask each member to come with a book in mind and a month that they would like to host our chat. Allowing each person to make a selection and host gives everyone a chance to feel a part of things and allows the group leader to just micromanage the logistics.

7 Tips for Hosting a Success Book Club from MomAdvice.com

7 Tips for Hosting a Success Book Club from MomAdvice.com

3. Pick Books That Can Sustain a Discussion

The best books that we have talked about have meat to them and naturally cultivate an incredible discussion. Books with shallow plots are probably better for your beach bag than your book club discussion.

Stumped for a book selection this year?

Can I make a great recommendation for you?

As I disclosed earlier, I am partnering with St. Martin’s Press to share about Kristin Hannah’s latest novel and I TRULY believe this is a perfect pick for your book club reading.

I , honestly, would read anything Kristin Hannah writes, but her last few books have been among my favorite. The Great Alone is a contemporary coming-of-age story that is set in the seventies in rural Alaska.  In this story, a former POW father comes home from the Vietnam War completely mentally changed from his experiences there. His behavior and decision-making is wildly erratic and when a property becomes available in rural Alaska, he decides that they should seize the opportunity to live off the grid and make a different life for themselves.

Braving harrowing and life-threatening conditions is what it is all about and thirteen-year-old Leni is caught in the middle of it all as they attempt to carve a new life in the wild frontier.

Living off the grid is not all it is cracked up to be and neither is surviving the difficult Alaska winters.  Hannah writes so eloquently about this impossible marriage and the honest struggle of a Vietnam veteran.

As you can see, from my description alone, this has so many elements for discussion. The plot brings on the challenges of PTSD in veterans, what it is like to live with a mentally ill family member, homesteading (and if YOU could survive it), and if you would stay with your partner if they were putting your family through a potentially life-threatening lifestyle.

When I say that books have to have meat for discussion, you can be assured that there would be MUCH to talk about with, The Great Alone.

Look for books like these where the description alone showcases what kinds of ideas you could discuss in your book chats.

4. Don’t Be Afraid of Controversial Plots

One thing I have worried about is picking books that have controversial plots that might make people feel uncomfortable. What has surprised me though is that these are usually our very best discussions and that it is, truly, okay to have different viewpoints.

The way I lead these discussions though is that I ask that things are said with kindness and love, even if you don’t necessarily agree with one another. In an online discussion, I can swiftly delete comments that aren’t said with kindness, but that is a bit more tricky in an in-person book club.

Even in these tricky moments though, leading by asking everyone to be kind has always been a successful way to start a thoughtful conversation and I have never had any issues after stressing this importance.

It can be scary leading a controversial discussion, but I was surprised how it changed people’s viewpoints or hearing about someone’s personal story and why it made them feel differently than me. A recent discussion of a story on immigration, for example, lead to people sharing how it completely changed their viewpoint on the deportation process.

It makes me wish we had more kind and honest talks and how they could bring compassion to our discussions.

5. Prepare For Your Discussion

Discussion questions are so helpful to have, especially when first beginning your chats. I have found that selecting books with discussion questions already in place can be extremely helpful and relieve a lot of stress on leading a talk. The Great Alone, for example, already has a great discussion outlined for you.

I try to not limit our discussions to just outlined questions though. If it is a historical fiction book, for example, it helps to look up the true stories and images from that time in history. Reading or finding author interviews that explain why the author decided to write a book can also add a lot to a discussion.

6.  Have Each Host/Hostess Decide How They Want to Host

7 Tips for a Successful Book Club from MomAdvice.com

7 Tips for a Successful Book Club from MomAdvice.com

7 Tips for a Successful Book Club from MomAdvice.com

7 Tips for a Successful Book Club from MomAdvice.com

I am happiest when I am entertaining our friends and family. It brings me great joy to share my table with them and feed them my food. Since this book is set mostly outdoors, I set up our outdoor table for a discussion.

It doesn’t have to be complicated though. This meat and cheese board, for example, is a fun way to share food with your book club friends without even cooking.

Sharing book club in the morning? Change the charcuterie board to a bagel board and load it with bagels and toppings.

The truth is, most people don’t love entertaining. It may bring them great stress, they may hate cooking, or they may be juggling a huge plate of craziness and can’t possibly add one more thing to their plates.

I GET IT.

Let each host/hostess decide how, where, and when works for them.

Food is not required to have a gathering.

Cooking is not required to have a gathering.

Opening YOUR home up is not required to have a gathering.

Allow each person to choose their style of hosting however or wherever they want to do it.

Book club should be fun and not stressful!

7. It’s All Too Much? Try an Online Club!

Painfully introverted? Haven’t found your people? Working full-time? New to town? Homeschooling? Single mom? Full plate?

Adding one more thing to your agenda can be an impossible task when you already have so much going on. Online book clubs can be an incredible option for someone that desires a book club, but just can’t make that happen in their day-to-day life.

You can join the free MomAdvice Book Club and be a part of a monthly discussion all year long!

The Great Alone by Kristin Hannah

The Great Alone is available in stores now and is highly recommended for your next book club chat!

To learn more:

Visit Macmillan.com

Like Kristin Hannah on Facebook

Follow St. Martin’s Press on TwitterFacebook, and Instagram

Do you have a tip for hosting a successful book club? Let me know in the comments below!

Thanks to my sponsor St Martin’s Press. All thoughts and opinions are my own.

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It’s the 3 Little Things

Friday, June 15th, 2018

Target Style top/ bottoms/ sandals/leg glowcactus welcome mat

As predicted, summer is already starting to fly by. I always think that there will be endless days of sitting with books and enjoying the sunshine, but we have already started the scheduling of physicals, running to and fro to friend’s houses, the endless outdoor chores, and that whole staying up way too late and sleeping in way too late thing too.

One thing I did pick back up though is my yoga routine and it has made me so happy to be back on my yoga mat again. If you are local and looking for a class, be sure to give this studio a try. I’m all about women supporting women in business and Abbi will be celebrating her first year as a business owner. If you have owned a business, you know there are so many hurdles and joys that come from finally getting launched. Getting that first year behind you is a major milestone so head over and show this passionate lady some support.

Here are 3 other things that are making me happy!

Kid Dates

Operation Date Your Kids

As a mom of big kids, I find it challenging to keep them engaged (and off their devices in the summer). Since we nixed the pool membership this year, that freed up some summer funds to try something different.

I proposed that each kid get a solo date with me and they could pick any (budget-friendly) thing that they wanted to do with me for the week. Unfortunately, my sweet girl got sick so we ended up just popping stovetop popcorn and renting this sweet flick from the library.

My son did cash in on his date and asked if he could GO TO THE LIBRARY (insert all the heart-eyed emojis EVAH) and to grab a coffee together.

Two introverts were doing what we loved best…just sitting in silence, sipping coffee, and reading our books.

I did manage to squeeze a few fun facts out of him though on the way so I consider week one a success.

I can’t wait to see what they want to do next week.

selfie-stick

A Well-Designed Selfie Stick

I never thought I would be the type of person that carried around a selfie stick and, yet, here we are.  I thought it might be a good investment for my website, but what I didn’t realize was how awesome it was to document moments with my kids.

That picture above?

Yup, just whipped out the selfie stick.

NBD.

I had one and it quickly broke and I never replaced it. This selfie stick is one of the most cleverly designed tech gadgets though that I have. It folds to a small size, but can be extended short or long for your shots. It also has a tripod which is so handy for my Marco Polo time and Instagram Stories.

Since it has Bluetooth, it syncs with your phone so you can take the photos. Charging is just like charging your phone- no batteries required.

If you want to document time with your kids this summer and be in the pictures, snag this ASAP. You won’t regret it!

hanes ex-temp bra

A Sweat Proof Bra

It has been a million degrees here and I needed to replace my undergarments (*ahem*).  After checking out the crazy-town prices on bras, I decided to check to see if Walmart offered some better options for my budget. I ended up buying three different brands (all of them are amazing- I’ll tell you more after I give the other two a test run), but the one that wins for this summer is this Hanes X-Temp Bra.

The reason why I like it is that it is made from fabric that is meant to adapt to the temperatures you need it throughout the day.

Boob sweat?

#thestruggleisreal

I spent a whole day running around yesterday and I was cool and collected in my bra…while the rest of me was a hot mess.

Hey, you can’t have everything.

I also LOVE the price on these and the fact that they don’t have an underwire. I purchased the nude option and you can’t see it under my summer white blouses.

Give this option a try!

netflix source

A few quick things I also loved this week-

Giving these shoes a test run. I’ll keep you posted!

Psyched one of my favorite authors has a new book for me to read. I’m putting this one in my earbuds this weekend.

My favorite stovetop popcorn method.

These salads will be happening this week.

I ordered this for my son’s birthday. He’s going to flip!

This speech was amazing.

I needed to read this.

Have a wonderful weekend, friends! xo

*this post may contain affiliate links- I only recommend what I love though. Check out past editions of It’s the 3 Little Things!

 

Amy’s Notebook 06.14.18

Thursday, June 14th, 2018

terra cotta pot upgrade source

How cute is this easy paint project for upgrading the style on a terracotta pot? I must try this!

Trying to grow indoor plants? I really appreciated these tips.

I love this idea on how to respond to, “how are you,” when you battle a chronic illness.

Speaking of that, here are some things I’ve been brewing on this week.

Ferris Bueller’s laid off– I’m dying. So, so good…

Stop killing the magic of books with required summer reading. I couldn’t agree more!

Another approach towards simplifying the wardrobe is this smart piece on creating your own personal dress code.

Are your kids obsessed with Fortnite? Here is a beginner guide to understand what the game is all about.

I used to spend a lot of time watching Lifetime movies as my weekend hobby and now these movies have replaced it.

modern house number sign source

Wow, I would love to attempt this diy modern house number sign. So gorgeous!

Well, now my face hurts from smiling.

Here are a few strategies if you are trying to get out of a reading rut.

Covering a weathered deck with faux grass is pretty genius.

We can’t simplify our way into a perfect life.

Here are 8 memoirs to read this summerThis has been my favorite this year!

Would you tell them to just “get over it?” Please read this.

I’ve been working really hard on my Instagram feed so this was a really helpful tutorial on the new algorithm.

My book club friends (please join us!) recommended this audiobook and I’m LOVING it.

Do you make a summer bucket list? I love these ideas!

budget-friendly patio source

I love this budget-friendly patio makeover on this rental.

I loved these makeup tips from a professional makeup artist. Lots of good advice!

This week’s MomAdvice Reader top purchase. I hope you are loving them as much as me!!

Why children aren’t behaving and what you can do about it. Fantastic advice for the modern parent.

The 17 best books to read this summer.

I like this advice on how to support a negative friend.

I hope you enjoyed our notebook, a collection of gathered links to DIY crafts, food projects, thrifty ways to spruce up your home, and thoughtful reads. Nothing brings me more joy than to highlight other fabulous bloggers. Follow me on Pinterest for daily inspiration! Please note, there are affiliate links that do help support our site- thank you! xoxo

 

 

Small-Budget Crushes 06.12.18

Tuesday, June 12th, 2018

small-budget crushes

One for you…one for Dad….;) 
denim off-the-shoulder dress
denim off-the-shoulder dress (extra 20% off, no coupon code needed)

airport father's day card thanks, dad! (lol)

personalized cuff links personalized cufflinks

sandals 2 For Tuesday– 06/12/18 – Summer Sandals – 2 for $35.00! + FREE Shipping w/code: 2FORSANDAL

bamboo bluetooth speaker bamboo bluetooth speaker

ruffle hem maxi dress ruffle hem maxi dress (two styles)

 

record storage record storage case

tank drawstring romper tank drawstring romper

solar phone charger solar powered phone charger (great for camping!)

whisper cotton tees basic crewneck tee (several colors)

bike phone holder bike phone mount

polka dot flounce polka dot flounce
google home mini google home mini

picnic time chair picnic time chair

you are my champion card you are my champion card

look for pizza look for pizza print

personalized passport holder personalized passport holder

mario jacket mario jacket (on sale!!)

audrey hepburn book audrey hepburn book

ruffle jumpsuit ruffle jumpsuit

babydoll dress babydoll dress (two styles)

Keep on window shopping by visiting all of my Small-Budget Crushes. This post contains affiliate links that help our site! Thank you for supporting me! xoxo 

 

It’s the 3 Little Things

Friday, June 8th, 2018

ethan

Our son made it through his first year of high school and we couldn’t be prouder. This was such a big transition (for all of us) and it has been such a joy to see him flourish in his new environment.  Since his sister has a sleepover, on the last day of school, we got to take this kid out on his own and celebrate with a little pizza.

I know that I say this often, but it does feel like I blink my eyes and another year together has passed. We are looking forward to another year of savoring the memories with them and even have planned a super secret epic adventure for his 16th birthday. I’d tell you what it is, but I have discovered that my kids follow me around on the interwebz more than I think that they do.

To not acknowledge the elephant in the room today would be wrong on my part. It is so sad to wake up and hear the news of Anthony Bourdain and Kate Spade this week. I have struggled with both depression and anxiety so I feel like I have a strong understanding of the ups and downs of mental illness. The ups can be so beautiful, but the lows, for me, have felt awfully lonely. The world we live in, with our constant sharing and highlight reels, can make all of this even more crippling. These words really resonated with me today.

I’m not going to pretend I have the answers, but what I do know is that I never EVER have been sad when I reached out to a therapist or to my family doctor to treat my illnesses. It takes a lot of bravery to say, “I’m not okay.” Over the years, I can see the patterns and behaviors that contribute to my illness. I also can see the people who hinder my mental health and have learned how important boundaries are. The other thing is that I have started telling people I love that I’m not okay and that I need help.

For a perfectionist, it makes me feel very vulnerable that I can’t get my shit together.

Each time I say it out loud though, I try to take action.

Today, I just wanted you to know that you are not alone and you are loved.

Saying it out loud takes bravery, but the next steps can be so rewarding to feel present again in your life.

Here are three silly things that are bringing me joy this week…

love letters review

Love Letters Card Game

If you are looking for a fun card game that you can carry in your purse, that has quick rounds, and a blast to play (no matter your age), then you must check out Love Letters.

love letters

The story around the game is that all of the eligible young men (and many of the not-so-young) seek to woo the princess of Tempest. Unfortunately, she has locked herself in the Palace, and you must rely on others to bring your romantic letters to her. In this 16-card game,  each player starts with only one card in hand; one card is removed from play. On a turn, you draw one card, and play one card, trying to expose others and knock them from the game. Powerful cards lead to early gains, but make you a target. Rely on weaker cards for too long, however, and your letter may be tossed in the fire.

The rounds are fifteen minutes (or less) and are so much fun. We brought this out to dinner with us and it was the perfect way to pass some time while waiting for our pizza. This game also happens to be less than $10, which sits perfectly in this frugal girl’s budget. Check it out!

Bob's Burgers Bob’s Burgers

One of the things that has been bringing me a lot of joy in the evenings is curling up with my hubby to watch, Bob’s Burgers. I’m probably the last person on the planet to discover how hilarious this show is, but I absolutely adore the writing, smart animation, and music in this show.

Are there any other Bob’s Burgers fans out there?

I have laughed until I’ve cried through several of these episodes and I’m going to be sad when we are all caught up because watching a handful of these has been just the fun medicine I needed when I wasn’t feeling good.

You can catch up on the show through Hulu, if you are the last, LAST person on earth to realize how perfect this show is.

jockey slip shorts Jockey Slip Shorts

I think that I heard about these from Jessica, over at The Mom Creative, and kept this info in the back of mind for our next summer season.

I have become a HUGE fan though of Jockey Slip Shorts (on sale today, buy 1, get 1 50% off so I’m stocking up!!) for underneath my summer dresses.

Although, I love the idea of Spanx, I don’t find them comfortable or as breathable in the summer. That said, I need something to hide underwear lines and prevent that summer jiggle (hahaha!). These Jockey Slip Shorts are a great compromise and have been such a great foundation piece under my clothes.

I highly recommend these!

A few quick things I also loved this week-

This movie– although I was UGLY CRYING through it. SO incredibly good. Run, run, run to the theater to see it.

My favorite show is back.

We needed a patio umbrella so we got the big guns and it is epically perfect for huge coverage on our patio.

This popping up in my Instagram.

Have a wonderful weekend, friends! xo

*this post may contain affiliate links- I only recommend what I love though. Check out past editions of It’s the 3 Little Things!

 

Amy’s Notebook 06.07.18

Thursday, June 7th, 2018

New York Strip source

Grilling season is my fave and I can’t wait to try this New York Strip Steak with Shortcut Chimichurri. Yum!

I love these unique ways to celebrate the men in your life on Father’s Day.

Holy heck. This piece is fascinating.

OMG. I’m SO EXCITED.

I tried leaving Facebook and couldn’t. Very thought-provoking!

If you liked Eleanor Oliphant, I think you might enjoy this book I’m reading.

7 things wealthy women do with their money that you can do too.

How people relax around the world is sure to inspire your next self-care day. I’m loving the Swedes and their coffee routine!

We have teeny bathrooms so I love these small bathroom storage techniques.

I love that this was your top purchase this week. #moms

The end-of-school kills me every year.

spray paint source

What a simple update with a little spray paint. I might need to do a little thrift shopping!

21 books you don’t have to read and what to read instead.

I cry all the time. I’m serious. This made me laugh.

Well, this is genius.

If babies wrote TripAdvisor reviews– hahaha!

I just got done completing this project. Check out my results!

  floral numbers source

I can’t wait to make this cake topper for my kiddos. How beautiful is that?

Guidelines for kids and social media (I like the printable on this one).

Midlife is not a crisis. Midlife is an unraveling.” This was an incredible read (and necessary).

This post really echoed my own journey since my diagnosis. #noregrets

These burgers are back on repeat over at our house.

This $2 ingredient will elevate any pasta dish. I used to buy this often and I need to get back to it!

What to do when your teen hates you.

Speaking of big kids. I’m struggling.

I hope you enjoyed our notebook, a collection of gathered links to DIY crafts, food projects, thrifty ways to spruce up your home, and thoughtful reads. Nothing brings me more joy than to highlight other fabulous bloggers. Follow me on Pinterest for daily inspiration! Please note, there are affiliate links that do help support our site- thank you! xoxo

 

Small-Budget Crushes 06.05.18

Tuesday, June 5th, 2018

small budget crushes

Here is what I’m crushing on this week!!

vintage striped tee vintage striped tee (50% off- no coupon code needed)

daddy and me mugs daddy and me mugs

pleat skirt pleated skirt (several styles)

floral tie romper floral tie-shoulder romper

collapsible shelving collapsible shelving (SO SMART!!)

polka dot off-shoulder top polka dot off-shoulder top

dad's ice cream plow dad’s ice cream plow (what a great gift with a few of his favorite ice cream flavors)

printed palm covers printed palm covers

faux fiddle leaf fig faux fiddle leaf fig

shorter in person shorter in person (hahaha- I get this all the time!)

pull-on shorts pull-on shorts (buy 1 pair of shorts, get the second for 50% off!!) patterned beach towels patterned beach towels (use coupon code SWEET for 20% off)

swing dress simple swing dress (50% off- no coupon code needed)

patterned shorts patterned shorts (several prints and colors)

gingham dress gingham dress (comes in petites and plus sizes)

striped midi dress striped midi dress (use coupon code DRESS20 to take 20% off)

rarest of them all card rarest of them all card

striped circle skirt striped circle skirt

tassel sandals tassel sandals (buy 1 pair, get another pair for 50% off!!)

striped romper striped romper

straw tote straw tote (take 20% off with coupon code SWEET)

metal stackable chairs metal stackable chairs (use coupon code JUNE for extra 10% off!!)

floral dress floral dress

linen midi dress linen midi dress

faux palm faux palm (that is a sweet price for silk!!)

striped shorts striped shorts (buy 1 get another pair for 50% off shorts)

girl power tee girl power tee

bluetooth wood keyboard bluetooth wood keyboard (perfect for traveling)

home sweet home home sweet home mat

floral pajama bottoms floral satin pajama pants

slimming suit slimming swimsuit (several patterns and colors)

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May 2018 Must-Reads

Friday, June 1st, 2018

May 2018 Must-Reads from MomAdvice.com

If you have been wondering what I’ve been reading this month, I have quite the stack for you today.

JAZZ HANDS.

I won’t even lie.

I’m feeling PRETTY smug that I read ten books in the crazy mom month of May. There were just SO many incredible books that came out this month and I’ve been so inspired to get reading thanks to all of these summer book reading lists that are coming out now. Looking for a few for your beach bag too? Stay tuned for next week’s post where I break down exactly what I think you should pack in your beach bag for 2018.

If you can’t get enough of my reviews (and missed my announcement last week!) be sure to subscribe to The Pickup Line newsletter to get weekly advice on your book reading. I am teaming up with these ladies to share one book selection for moms and one book selection for your teens every single Wednesday. Plus, you can get caught up on all of the latest headline news, grab a meal idea, and even get some cool new tunes for your car too. Score!

My Usual Reminders

If you want to see more of what I am reading,  please feel free to friend me on GoodReads! You can find me right here and I am always happy to connect with people there! There is nothing more motivating than seeing what other people are raving about and my to-be-read pile continues to grow with all of my new friends on there!

In fact, many of the books featured are ones that I have found through my friends on GoodReads.

Looking to add some variety to your stack? Feel free to join our book club! I can’t believe we have over 1,600 bookworms in this group. Our discussion this month was AMAZING and it is so much fun to have so many participating (and enjoying) the books that I selected to share. I announced our selections (here is what we will be reading in June) and you can find them pinned at the top of the group page.

Need another challenge to push you out of your reading comfort zone? Be sure to download this year’s Reading Challenge Worksheet.

Book of the Month

The Book of Month Club Selections Are Out!!

This month’s selections:

❃ The Anomaly by Michael Rutger—recommended by BOTM Editorial Director Siobhan Jones

❃ The Book of Essie by Meghan MacLean Weir—recommended by Guest Judge Troian Bellisario

❃ Calypso by David Sedaris—recommended by BOTM Judge Liberty Hardy

❃ The Kiss Quotient by Helen Hoang—recommended by BOTM Readers Committee member Celestine Williams

❃ When Katie Met Cassidy by Camille Perri—recommended by BOTM Judge Samantha Irby

We’re also excited to offer Gillian Flynn’s Gone Girl this month. Members can add this book to their box for just $9.99.

This month’s special:

New members will get a free book with code USESPF. How it works: Members will pay $14.99 when they sign up for a subscription that will renew monthly. They’ll also receive a credit for a free book at the time of this transaction (redeemable at any time). Then they’ll be renewed at the end of their second month (unless they cancel).

Here are 10 must-read books I tackled in May:

All We Ever Wanted

All We Ever Wanted by Emily Giffin

I received a copy of this book from the publishing house. All thoughts and opinions are my own.

I have come to rely upon Emily Giffin as a great summer escape and was surprised by the meat and depth that I found in her latest novel, All We Ever WantedHot off the trails of the #metoo movement, Giffin explores a fictional story of an inappropriate image that is passed around a prep school of a teen girl, passed out and scantily dressed, captioned with a racist caption below the image. At the center of the controversy is one of the most prominent families and their well-respected son who took the picture that could cost him his coveted college acceptance to Princeton. The case must be brought to trial at the school and there are more twists and turns than either of them could ever expect.

This book is EXCELLENT and I finished it in just a day. It would lend itself so well to a book club discussion as we grapple with social media and the sexualization of teen girls. Giffin crafts characters that are believable and layered. She also creates a smart and unexpected ending for this story that I think you will really appreciate.

Although I’ve appreciated Giffin’s books in the past, I have to say that this one is, by far, my favorite!

Reading Challenge Completed- A book you can read in a day

5 out of 5 Stars

The Mars Room

The Mars Room by Rachel Kushner

Are you a fan of Orange is the New Black? If so, I have a feeling that you will really enjoy, The Mars Room, a bleak and unflinchingly real look at today’s prison system. Set in 2003, Romy Hall is at the start of two consecutive life sentences at Stanville Women’s Correctional Facility, deep in California’s Central Valley. Romy worked as a stripper at a nightclub, called The Mars Room, and has one client who ends up stalking her. To protect herself and her child, she kills the man, has a rather unfair trial, and is sent to prison.

The story that unfolds though goes way beyond Romy’s story and explores the path of many of her fellow prisoners and how they got there. With dark and unsentimental humor, Kushner develops these incredible stories of each prisoner in such a way that you can really tell that she has done her research as a writer. The stories are often brutal, sad, and laced with truth about our broken prison system.

I listened to this one on audiobook and enjoyed Kushner’s own narration of her book. Although the material was dark and depressing, Kushner does an incredible job illustrating what prison life is like and writes these stories with such raw honesty that you can’t help but feel sympathy for so many that are trapped in the prison system.

4 out of 5 Stars

Woman Last Seen In Her Thirties

Woman Last Seen in Her Thirties by Camille Pagan

I received a copy of this book from the publishing house. All thoughts and opinions are my own.

Woman Last Seen in Her Thirties is a great book to add to your beach bag this summer and priced perfectly at just $3.99! I admit, the story is not a unique one. A woman is feeling great with her basic middle-age life, when her husband tells her that he wants a divorce and is involved in a relationship with another woman. What makes this book unique though is that Maggie refuses to give into drinking and wallowing away in her sorrows and instead decides to take that trip to Rome, that she had planned to do with her husband, and do it as a single woman. Her response is what makes the book so great.

Women can find themselves at any age and this story shows that life, for sure, does not need to be over if your marriage fails. In fact, your life can be even better than before.

Let’s read more stories like these!

Reading Challenge Completed- a book with a strong female character

4 out of 5 Stars

The Good Liar

The Good Liar by Catherine McKenzie

I received a copy of this book from the publishing house. All thoughts and opinions are my own.

Over the years, McKenzie has become one of my most reliable and well-loved chick lit authors. That’s why I was excited to dig into, The Good Liar, a  decidedly different kind of book. This thriller explores the story of a Chicago building explosion and the lives that have been altered for three women.

A year has passed and these women are taking part in a documentary series telling their very different stories. Cecily, for example, becomes the poster child, of sorts, for this explosion when an image of her running away from the building is leaked to the media. It is this photographer who decides to dive in deeper and there are A LOT of secrets surrounding this explosion. Kate, her best friend, has fled since the accident and is harboring some big secrets of her own.  Meanwhile, Franny, happened to catch this horror unfold on television and knows that her birth mom, that she hoped to one day meet, is killed in this explosion.

Nothing is at it seems though and these women are all protecting an element of themselves that they hope the world never knows. Some of these characters, like Cecily, are relatable and easy to love. Others, like Kate, gave me a bit of a struggle because her motivations were out of my own realms of understanding.

This is a captivating read that kept me guessing until the final pages about who would have started such a horrific turn of events. McKenzie’s own background in the law field (she still practices while writing books- what a powerhouse!) really rounds out this story in a believable and twisted way.

4 out of 5 Stars

The Little Clan

The Little Clan by Iris Martin Cohen

By far, one of my favorite books this month was, The Little Clan, and I would recommend it for a fantastic bookish escape this summer. This debut novel is about two old friends who decide to open a Victorian-inspired literary salon at an aging Manhattan arts club.

While Ava is quiet and bookish, her friend Stephanie is in the scheme for the fame and parties. This coming-of-age story really drives home the challenges of female friendships and the struggles of finding yourself in your twenties.

This  has great humor and Cohen’s sentences really shine, thanks to her exquisite storytelling. I enjoyed the pacing in this book and the smart nods to the great classics that Ava loves.  This book definitely does not read like a debut novel and it makes me excited to read more from her in the future.

Reading Challenge Completed- A book that takes place in a library

 5 out of 5 Stars

Our Kind of Cruelty

Our Kind of Cruelty by Araminta Hall

I love a good dark thriller and Our Kind of Cruelty definitely delivers with a psychologically dark story. From the first page, you realize that the main character, Mike Hayes, is quite unstable.  Scarred by a difficult childhood, it is clear that he doesn’t really know how relationships work and he becomes obsessed with repairing and pursuing his old girlfriend, Verity.

Unfortunately, the mental instability is crippled further because Verity likes to play games with Mike where she flirts and pursues other people. These games end when she gives the signal for Mike to intercept for an evening of fun together. That is why these games cause Mike to question if Verity’s new relationship is real or if she is continuing to play games with him.

He is definitely in to win it so the reader is taken on each cringe-worthy moment with Mike as he tries to coerce Verity back into his life, ultimately costing everyone everything.

I am struggling with the review on this one because I did finish it in a day, thanks to the great writing, but I found the plot to be really thin.  I also would read another book from this author, but I would have trouble recommending this one unless you are just looking for a quick thriller escape that doesn’t require a big investment.

3 out of 5 Stars

Rainbirds

Rainbirds by Clarissa Goenawan

Rainbirds explores the idea of finding out that someone in your family is murdered and then the process of discovering who they really were. Ren Ishida was not close to his sister when he receives news that she has been violently stabbed and killed one night on the way home. She has been living in Akakawa and he decides to see if he can understand more about who she had become and figure out the puzzling mystery of her death.

He is quickly offered her teaching position at a prestigious school and even takes over the same lodging situation that his sister had, allowing him to really immerse himself into her life. Haunted by dreams of a young girl who is trying to tell him something, Ren has the chance to really delve into both their childhoods and who they have become. Goenawan’s prose is gorgeous, haunting, and beautiful. If you were a fan of Everything I Never Told You I think you will appreciate this book in the same way. The plot is not necessarily moving at a quick pace, it is just an achingly beautiful story.

Reading Challenge Completed- A book that is set in a country that’s exotic to you

4 out of 5 Stars

The Music Shop

The Music Shop by Rachel Joyce

I had a really good feeling that I would love this month’s MomAdvice Book Club selection and I wasn’t disappointed. The Music Shopis a fun story set in the late 80’s and centers around an old record store  and it’s quirky shop owner, Frank. Frank is known for his gift of connecting the right people with the right piece of music, just when they need it most.

When a beautiful young woman, named Ilse, comes to his store asking for music lessons, Frank must put down his self-imposed thick wall and share parts of his heart with her.

In between these sweet chapters are the stories of Frank’s childhood where his mother would share the stories behind the music with him. As a reader, it pulls back the curtain on why Frank is the way he is and why he has been alone for so long.

The story is pulled together with some really adorable townspeople as they all love and support Frank and his shop. Although the ending is a bit cheesy and the plot unrealistic at times, I loved it in the same ways that I loved, A Man Called Ove, and the beauty in the storytelling of adorably quirky old men.

4 out of 5 Stars

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Laura & Emma by Kate Greathead

I listened to, Laura & Emma, and I do think that maybe this just might be the reason why I enjoyed this one so much. This story, to me, read like a series of short stories and not necessarily as one cohesive piece. I also will say, that if the characters are quirky, nine times out of ten I will adore them, and  I found Laura to be oddly interesting.

Laura is the daughter of a wealthy Manhattan couple and finds herself in the family-way after a very odd one-night stand. She decides to keep the baby and raise her as a single mother with the help of her family and friends.

Greathead bounces around through this story going back and forth from the plot of these complex mother and daughter relationships to the thoughts that consume Laura regarding social class, sex, motherhood, friendship, and everything else in between.

If I read this one, I might not have enjoyed it as much as I did, but it was through listening to this and approaching it in short story format that I really begin to appreciate Greathead’s writing. If you liked Dept. of Speculation, I think you will enjoy this debut.

4 out of 5 Stars

The Electric Woman The Electric Woman by Tessa Fontaine

I’m such a sucker for a great memoir and can’t rave enough about, The Electric Woman. Tessa Fontaine shares two death-defying stories…her own and the incredible story of her mother who defied all predictions of death for many years after suffering a series of strokes.

Many of us dream of escaping it all, but Tessa actually does this and applies for a job working with the World of Wonders, America’s last traveling side show. Bravely, she tries all sorts of incredible acts within this company like sword swallowing, snake charming, and even performing as an electric woman. Surrounding herself with some of the world’s most unusual people, she shares their stories with kindness and love for this misfit family and her time with them.

Layered between these captivating moments, she weaves in the parallel life of her mother and her own death-defying act of traveling the world in the midst of health struggles that should have killed her. She reflects poetically on the complexities of the mother-daughter relationship and how we grow to understand our parents more and more as we age.

 5 out of 5 Stars

Amy Allen Clark

Read With Me This Year:

January 2018 Must-Reads

February 2018 Must-Reads

March 2018 Must-Reads

April 2018 Must-Reads

May 2018 Must-Reads from MomAdvice.com

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