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When I was a little girl, I was blessed with beautiful Shirley Temple ringlets that my mom could wrap around her finger, let go, and a perfect ringlet would stand to attention and hold it’s shape. My mom said that people would stop her on the streets and ask her how she got my hair to do that, and my mom would admit that she did nothing except wrap the curls around her fingers. My children, sadly, were not blessed with mommy’s curly-haired genes, but I always wish that I could do this to my own daughter’s hair.

Fast forward about thirty years and you will discover a girl who has beaten her curls into wild submission with product, blow dryers, metal brushes, and hair straighteners. I fight frizz and wave with pure aggression and as much heat as my hair can stand. If I try to do a day with wave in it, the waves will barely perk up, hanging limp and weighed down by forty products intended to curl boost.

Years ago, I discovered a book at the library called Curly Girl that changed my life. I applied the Curly Girl philosophy to my hair for awhile with fabulous results, and then decided that I wanted a more polished look and headed back to the straightener. I admit that I feel less confident with my wild curls and wonder if people think I rolled out of bed instead of paying attention to my hair.

My hair is starting to show the strains of abuse though and I decided to head back to the Curly Girl way of life after witnessing my girlfriend who rediscovered her curls again after picking up the book. For a curly girl, the philosophy is curl-changing…a total game changer for girls who have relied on hair products to pull their curls together.

Want to return to your baby curls? The Curly Girl philosophy is frugal and easy to start!

1. Wash your hair with a non-sulfate clarifying shampoo to remove all of the gunk and product build-up from your hair.

2. Get your ends trimmed on your hair to give you a fresh start to your new curls.

3. Don’t ever use a brush on your hair. You will need a wide-toothed comb or you can use your fingers to comb through your curls in the shower and when your hair is wet.

4. Don’t use shampoo on your hair and only use conditioner on your hair. Shampoo has harsh chemicals in it that dry out and damage your curls.  Instead, use conditioner and give your scalp a nice massage and rub the conditioner into the scalp. Apply the conditioner to the rest of your hair and let it set in on your hair for four minutes and condition your curls. I comb my conditioner through with my hands and don’t even use a comb on my hair. Finish by rinsing your hair with a cool rinse.  Even if you are not washing with shampoo, there is no need to do this daily, some girls can even go once a week! I rinse mine with conditioner three days a week and that seems to work well with my hair.

5. Apply product to your hair while it is still wet (you can use an additional frizz cream and gel) and Scrunch your curls or wrap individual curls around your fingers to shape them.

6. Allow your curls to air dry or use a diffuser to dry them. Never use a towel on your curls because they can bruise and frizz your curls up. Instead, use a microfiber towel or even an old t-shirt to dry your hair. These instructions explain the drying process well.

7. Allow your hair two to six weeks to adjust to your new routine.  I found it takes me about two weeks for my hair to look good, but it depends on how much abuse your hair has suffered!

I am on week one again of letting my curls all hang out. Again, I feel unpolished and crazy, but here is where I am at right now:

This is actually the second day without washing my hair (in week one)  and all I had to do was use a little water to scrunch everything back up again.  I am working on being comfortable with my original look, but I definitely am getting used to these crazy old curls again. I can’t wait to see what my curls look like after six weeks of this treatment!

I had been planning to blog about this and they reissued the Curly Girl book and asked if I wanted to host a giveaway for my readers. Since it is something I am using in my own life, I am excited to share it with another girl fighting her natural beauty and curls! I am looking forward to getting my hands on my own copy of this book since I have worn the library book out to pieces!

Today I am giving away a copy of the new CURLY GIRL: The Handbook and a DevaCurl Travel Kit of products to care for your curls. Three additional winners will win a copy of the Curly Girl Book! That means four girls will be rocking their original curls this year thanks to MomAdvice!

To enter, leave a comment below letting me know why you need this book for yourself (or for someone  you love!) Please submit your entries by Tuesday (03/01) at 8PM EST.  Our winner will be drawn at random. Good luck, everyone!

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  1. 114

    Hi, Amy!
    My teenage daughter has always had curly hair. For the last few years she has been straightening her hair on a daily basis. She just doesn’t like her curls. Why is it that we are not happy with what God gave us? My hair is straight and I wish I had curls and Alana has curls and wishes she had straight hair. :)
    Many Blessings
    Jodi

  2. 115

    I have curly hair that I straighten most days…every time I get it cut, they say “this haircut would look really cute with curly hair” and I say “I don’t want curly hair!” I’d like to learn how to make it better! Have never heard some of those tricks before. Thanks!

  3. 116

    After years of perms and other harsh chemical hair treatments I’ve finally decided to just free my curls but I don’t know where to start or what products to use…I desperately need this book.

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    I also have curls and spent most of my pre-married, pre-baby days straightening it with a blow dryer and round brush. I’ve since tried to embrace my curls, but agree that they seem messy and I feel less ‘done’, even if I’ve spent a fair amount of time getting to my state of done-ness. Would love to see what they suggest, since this is my ‘do nowadays! ~Laura

  6. 119

    I have a daughter with beautiful curls and I would love for her to understand and truely appreciate how lucky she is to have such naturally beautiful curly hair. I would love for her to have the knowledge to maintain her beautiful locks.

  7. 120

    If I had only had this book when I was 13. It took me years to figure these things out and to embrace my curls. Thankfully I have a husband who prefers curly to straight!

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  9. 122

    I’m currently embracing my curls again and this book is perfect timing! I need to share with my daughter and granddaughter!

  10. 123

    Amy, Your hair looks fantastic! I’ve been fighting the curls/waves for years too. My problem is that the curls/waves are not the same for all sides of my hair. The back is very curly. The left side is barely wavy and the right side is wavy/some curl. So when I go all natural it looks like if haven’t groomed myself. I have recently moved from trying to straightened it all to just doing waves. It seems to be working for me right now.

  11. 124

    My hair is naturally wavy. It’s not full-on curly or straight, so it always look half-done. I would love to coax the natural beauty out of my hair rather than fighting it to be something is isn’t.

  12. 125

    You are lucky to have waves rather than curls, imho. I have battled with my curly hair all of my life, and can’t even begin to count the number of days I begged to stay home from school because of it. I have tried everything from chemical straighteners to a clothes iron to flatten out my curls, and nothing works. I’ll have perfectly straight hair for a fleeting moment, but as soon as the slightest hint of moisture even thinks about touching my hair… *poof*… it’s frizz city. I truly do hate it.

  13. 126

    I like your curls! They’re a lot like mine. My hair was stick-straight until my mid-twenties. Now it wavers between curly and wavy. I almost never brush it and only use the comb or my fingers, but I’m afraid to go without shampoo! I’d like to get this book and see if I can improve the frizz deal that happens far too often.

  14. 127

    I have struggled with more curls FOREVER …. and then I had a daughter with curls!! So …. I had no choice but to embrace them — any help would be greatly and truly appreciated.

  15. 128

    I had hair like that once…now after kids it’s wrecked. There is curl on one side of my head and none on the other so I straighten the whole thing. But my daughter has the most beautiful curls. I already apply some of these tips but I’d love to learn more.

  16. 129

    OMG!! I come from generations of curly hair. From my grandmother all the way to my daughter we have different degrees of curliness. I have the tightest curls of the family..I would LOVE to have this book to get these curls under control before another humid summer.:)

  17. 130

    I’d love this for my daughter. I have straight hair and have NO idea how to deal with her crazy curly hair!

  18. 131

    My 8 year daughter has very curly hair and she cries almost daily because its so hard to brush! We have it thinned out every few months but it just seems to grow back even curlier and thicker. I would really love to have this book in hopes it will help me conrol her hair and make it easier on her and I to brush. Thank you so much!

  19. 132

    Hi!
    I’d love to wint this for my niece! SHe has beautiful curls but many times straightens them and I don’t think she likes them. I think they are beautiful and hope she find the beauty in them!
    Thanks so much for the opportunity to win in this giveaway!
    ~Mippy :)
    bunnysmip At yahoo Dot com

  20. 133

    My hair, my daughters hair and my niece all had beautiful curls until we got a little older. Mine is just frizzy and it needs to be rescued.

  21. 134

    With 6 daughters we all have different hair types and I do not know how to handle them all. I could definitely use this book and extras. Thank you

  22. 135

    My husband and I are adopting a set of sisters out of the foster care system and the older one (18 months) has some wild curly hair that I can not figure out how to manage — the baby’s (7 months) is growing in curly too so this would be a lifesaver for us! :) Thanks for offering it – that’s very cool.

  23. 136

    I’ve got the curls – don’t know what to do with them. I’ve straightened them, pulled them back, cut them off (it didn’t work!), and now I am trying to live with them. Its hard – I don’t know what I am doing, but I know its healthier for my hair. I want to find a style that is trendy and not little-girlish as that will keep me from straightening my hair again. Love this giveaway!!

  24. 137

    I have a friend with natural curly hair that hates it while I am jealous of it :) I’d love to gift this to her if I win!~

  25. 138

    My 3 year old daughter and I both have curly, sometimes frizzy, hair. It would be great to have some styling tips!

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    I have curly thick auburn hair and when I was a little girl I told anyone who would listen that I wanted “flat black hair”. I spent the first 19 years of life with the shortest hair because my mother could deal with my curls and then I had no idea how to. At 19 I wore a hat everyday for 9 months while my curls grew out and I spent the next 10 years in a love hate realationship with them. Around 30 I decided I wanted to love my curls, they are a big part of who I am. Now pushing 40 I have a toddler girl with the same wild auburn curly hair and I am trying to teach her to love her curls and make washing and grooming a self-loving experence instead of the hairpulling tourture I lived through. But now my own curls have been resigned to a large fuzzy ball – tied up with a scrunchy since the day she was born. I am ready to reclaim my curly birthright for myself and to teach it to my daughter.

  28. 141

    I have long, naturally curly hair. I do not like the way it looks down and curly and with 3 kids I do not have time to straighten it so in a pony tail it goes. Every day! I think I have used a million different products trying to find a way to make my curls cooperate. I am going to start with this plan TONIGHT! I would love to get the book and see what else I should be doing.

  29. 142

    I would love to get this book so I would know what to do with my two daughter’s crazy curly hair! My hair has always been straight as a stick so when I had 2 girls with curly hair, I wasn’t sure what to do with it! I’m getting better at keeping it tame but by the end of the day, their hair does tend to resemble clown hair :)

  30. 143

    I have thick, curly hair. I spent years trying to fight my curls and now I love them, except my hair ends up frizzy a lot. I really need to learn how to care for my hair so it looks healthy and the curls look great. :)

  31. 144

    I certainly remember the ringlets in my own hair and love curling my little granddaughter’s hair around my finger when she stays with us. I’d love to have the book to help her learn how to care for her curls.

  32. 145

    I was so happy to see you are embracing your curls Amy! I use the DevaCurl line of products, they are the BEST!

    Yeaaaaaaa Curly Girls!

    Amy Reply:

    Love seeing you on here, Cathy!! :)

  33. 146

    I have curly hair – it has gone through stages when it did not curl very well to out of control curls! I get so frustrated that I wear it in a pony tail practically every day. I would love a book to guide me in other ways (healthier ways) to wear my hair!

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    You have inspired me! I used to always wear my hair very long and curly, but about ten years ago, I had it relaxed/cut and have been straightening ever since. I am of Italian decent and my curls are pretty tight and crazy. I have embraced them again and I’m going to try and grow out my hair. Without all the heat styling from the flat iron, it shouldn’t break or split as much. You’re hair looks so trendy, btw!

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    I love my kids curls, but I would like to be about to take care of them better.

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