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Tell Your Child’s Story

I get a lot of emails from mothers who are dealing with children with special needs and who want to share their experience and story with our readers. Do you have a child who battles a physical or mental illness? Would you like to use my blog as a platform to share their story with our readers?

I am interested in hearing from the mothers of these brave children. If you would like to tell your child’s story, please email me at amy@momadvice.com and let me know. I would love to feature these children regularly on our blog and learn more about your families and the difficulties that you have to overcome.

Thanks a bunch!

Real Simple Magazine Tips for July

This month, Real Simple would like to give our readers access to web exclusive content and a sneak preview of some of the stories in their upcoming issue. Throwing an Outdoor Cocktail Party gives readers real simple ways to create an al fresco lounge in their own backyard. Their upcoming July issue also gives readers great ideas about how to decorate your home with different types of throw pillows. I hope you enjoy these tips and much thanks to Real Simple for giving us access to these tips!

Decorating with Throw Pillows

Organize Art Supplies with a Dish Rack (This was a personal favorite of mine this month!)

MomAdvice News

We were experiencing some technical difficulties with our forum this weekend, but we are up and rolling again. We apologize for the delay and hope that everyone can get back to chatting.

I had blogged about hitting the discount day at the Field Museum today, but we had a change in plans. We will be doing this another day because I have an unexpected trip coming up to San Francisco this weekend. The gals over at Divine Caroline are flying me out to see their office and enjoy a weekend with everyone from their advisory counsel. I will be leaving on Thursday and will try to continue blogging while I am gone, but we will probably not have a Freebie Friday this week since I will be traveling. We traded our museum day for a weekend away for just me so I am very excited about my trip alone. I will be returning late on Saturday evening. Please pray for my husband who will be with the kids alone for his first weekend without me! I am sure they will be fine, but I know it is hard.

When I return on Monday, I have a big interview with CBS Early Show! I am not sure when this will be airing, but I will let you all know so that you can watch it. They will be doing a piece on work-at-home scams, and I was contacted since I had personal experience with it and now am doing a work-at-home business that also helps educate women on scams and true work-at-home ideas. This will be my first national television appearance so I am extremely excited and REALLY nervous.

Thanks so much for all of your continued support!

Freebie Friday: June 15, 2007


Thank you all so much for your comments last week. I was so excited to see how many of you are reading and what you have enjoyed on our site! It really meant a lot to me. Please enjoy this week’s freebies.

We are currently experiencing some technical difficulties on our forum. We apologize for the inconvenience and will be working on the problem today!

Health & Beauty

Sign up for a free sample of the new & improved Tampax Cardboard. Please allow six to eight weeks for delivery.

Sam’s Club members can sign up for a free sample of Kotex Lightdays Pantiliners.

Help fight HIV/AIDS in the Black community by joining the “I Stand With Magic” Program. Together with Magic and Abbott you can make a difference in your community by raising awareness and speaking out on prevention and treatment options for the disease. Simply fill out the information below and press ‘Submit’ at the bottom of the page. You’ll receive your official membership card and educational newsletter in the mail, along with a special “I Stand With Magic” pin. Only persons living in the U.S. can join The Campaign. Our apologies to our visitors from outside the U.S.

Try a free sample of Sensodyne Toothpaste.

To get your free dual sample containing new Olay Total Effects Age-Defying foundation and Full Treatment LipColor, just fill out the questionnaire. Samples are available for residents of the U.S. 18 years old and older only. Limited quantities available.

Introducing Dove Cool Moisture Shampoo and Conditioner. Now the icy freshness of cucumber and intoxicating green tea fragrance you love for your face and body leaves your hair smelling fresh, and feeling clean and beautiful. *While supplies last. Please allow 8-12 weeks for delivery. Available to residents of the 48 continental United States and AK and HI only. Limit one sample per household or address. You must be 18 or older to receive this sample. Fill out and submit the following form to receive your sample of Dove Cool Moisture.

Be one of the lucky few to join our wet n wild Beauty Advisory Panel. Panel members are invited to try our new and most exciting products – FREE! Then they give us their opinions. To be considered for the panel you must complete the linked survey. Survey is only open from 8:00 a.m. (CT) June 15 to 8:00 a.m. (CT) June 18. Completing the survey does not guarantee participation in the wet n wild Beauty Advisory Panel. Selected panelist will be notified by e-mail on or around June 26.If you are selected, you will be notified by e-mail on or around June 26. If you are not selected this time, please try back again. We would love to have you participate in our next Beauty Advisory Panel. (Note: This took a couple of minutes to process so be patient!)

Sign up for Sephora’s Beauty Insider program and receive a free gift on your birthday and receive exclusive samples.

Try Goody’s Headache Powder in cool orange for free. Please allow up to four weeks for delivery and limit one freebie per customer.

Food

Join the Bush’s Beans Moms and Kids Panel! We’re looking for 50 moms and their kids from across the country to test kid-friendly bean recipes and tell us what they think. If you’re a mom with children ages 3 -12, simply tell us a little about your family and your cooking style, and you might be chosen to join the panel. And if you’re a dad who does most of the family cooking, feel free to join as a “Mr. Mom.”

The Dunkin’ Advisory Panel is a dynamic community of Dunkin’ Donuts’ best customers who will be asked to provide candid opinions on a variety of topics related to Dunkin’ Donuts. As a member of the panel, you will receive invitations to participate in on-line surveys and discussion groups. In exchange, panelists (a.k.a. Dunkin’ VIPs) will be among the first to see new advertising campaigns, learn about new products, and receive valuable rewards like Dunkin’ Donuts Cards or Dunkin’ Donuts Gift Certificates.Participation is always 100% voluntary, and all information provided to us remains confidential. Your feedback will be tremendously valuable to Dunkin’ Donuts and our future offerings. Complete our brief survey to join the Dunkin’ Advisory Panel today!

Check the box on this form to receive a free sample of Chocolate Covered Post Shredded Wheat cereal.

Wal-Mart has reinstated their Knorr Sides Plus sample. If you didn’t get this one last time- here is another opportunity. Please allow up to four weeks for delivery.

Home & Garden

Receive a free 6 month subscription to the newsletter of the National Gardening Association.

Entertainment

Claim a complimentary subscription to the Luxury Spa Finder Magazine. Please allow six to eight weeks for processing (Please note: The survey is lengthy, but you can answer, “No, thank you!” to all offers).

Print out this coupon for a free 5×7 enlargement or collage from CVS. This would make a great Father’s Day gift!

Not Necessarily Free, BUT…

Target has a printable coupon for Luvs Diapers- Buy one get one free! Coupon can not exceed $10.99. Good only while supplies last- so hurry!!

The Dollar Stretcher Tips 06.14.07

For a sample copy of The Dollar Stretcher newsletter, send $2 to: Dollar Stretcher Sample, 6695 Cortez Road W., Bradenton FL 34210. Copyright 2007 Dollar Stretcher, Inc. Visit The Dollar Stretcher for even more tips & ideas!

Unplugged!

I recently tried the experiment of unplugging all appliances that were not being used, including cell phone chargers, and saved $15 on my electric bill in one month.
Ilsa G.

Leftovers

Instead of saving leftovers in Rubbermaid or Corning containers, scoop them into zip top bags and store in one of the drawers of your refrigerator. They take up so much less room, and the family gets used to looking in that one spot instead of moving things around on the shelves. Things seldom get “lost” because they’ve been pushed to the back, and you can see exactly what’s available. Use a permanent marker and label with date and contents.
Barb C.

Free Gym Membership

Are you bored watching your child at swim class or other lessons at the rec center? Use that time to exercise for free! Our local rec center allows parents and/or siblings to swim or use the gym facilities free while their children are attending class. We cannot use the entire pool, but can still use most of it. We can also use it between lessons since the siblings do not have lessons at the same time. They do not publicize this and it is not applicable for every class, but a quick phone call can confirm if your center will allow it or not. For the price of two children in swim lessons, my entire family of five can get a workout. I am still close enough to watch my children in class, and I am modeling healthy behavior.
Susanne M. in Wheat Ridge, CO

Desktop Solution

I recently uncovered an old desk my parents had in storage that I could use. However, the top was all scratched and chipped. I bought a dry erase board panel, cut it to the size of the desk top using a veneer saw blade in my saw, glued it on with liquid nails, and painted the desk. Voila! I now have a smooth desk top that is a snap to clean. When working at the desk, I don’t have to look for paper to write on. And my daughter loves to draw on it. I spent less than $20 and have a “brand new” desk that everyone loves to use. Also, by putting magnets on the back of my leftover dry erase board, I now have a place on my refrigerator for notes.
BF

CD Clean

I needed to clean some of my music CDs and a DVD (which didn’t work when I first received it) and so I carefully used an optical lens cleaner sheet (like you get from Sam’s in the eyeglass section). These sheets are less than $6 for 180 (large ones) compared to $7 or so for about 20 in an electronics store. I had to unfold the section that I wanted to use and gently wipe off the disk in the right direction (from the center to the outside). Now, the DVD works and the CDs are clean. This is quite inexpensive, and I figured that it was worth a try since the lens cleaner was safe for my glasses.
Cynthia S.

Not One, But Five

I never make one cup of tea. With two bags and a teapot, I get five big mugs of tea. If we don’t finish the hot tea, we put it in the refrigerator for tomorrow’s iced tea. Also, I get tea from the local “deals only” store for about a dollar a box or in bulk at the health food store. One heaping tablespoon of bulk tea per pot is a thrifty alternative to bagged tea.
Beth H.

Take the Savings and Run

When I use coupons, I ask the checker to let me pay the full pre-coupon amount and give me the value of the coupons in cash. Last year, I accumulated over $2300, which I have set aside for emergencies and special family gifts. And, of course, I never buy anything I wouldn’t also buy without a coupon.
Nancy in Santee

Family Auction

We are planning a family gathering/pig roast during Labor Day. We did this annually for several years. One thing that we did to help with the cost of the pig was have everyone bring a used item to auction off. We had everything from children’s toys (never over 50 cents) to small household appliances. After a few years, some people got donations from their employers of gift certificates for various restaurants. After the first time, everyone looked forward to the “auction,” especially the kids.
Sue L.

Remembering Grandma

Last year my mother-in-law died suddenly. We didn’t know if she had any insurance and we didn’t have the cash to pay the $7000 to $9000 the funeral home told us it would cost to bury her. She already owned a plot. My brother-in-law contacted a funeral home here about cremation. The cremation and related services was about $1200. We did the memorial service/funeral ourselves.

We printed flyers with the information about her on them. We created the memorial book and customized it with the things she loved, so it really reflected her. We printed the RESERVED signs for the pews at the church. We asked a couple of friends who came to the service if they would help with ushering people in and out. My son made a CD of music for the before and after music. We found many pictures of her from different times in her life and created a lovely display at the front of the church. One of her passions was her Red Hat group, so we prepared a display of her hats and things that she had collected around that.

I think some people in the small town may have been a bit taken aback, but I though it was a lovely Red Hat funeral and befitted her. My son commented that he felt a great deal of closure from the whole process. Our family came together and worked together to create a time of fond memories in what was a truly stressful time. We know that it was unconventional, but that adds a little more to the whole experience. We stepped out of tradition and created some new family traditions. In the process, we probably saved at least $5000!
Penny H.

Amy’s Notebook 06.14.07


Here are the best reads this week:

This post from Frugal for Life nearly broke my heart. If you are having financial problems, suicide is not the answer. Please read Dawn’s advice and resources for those of you who are financially struggling!

Jeri’s Organizing & Decluttering News has a great post on sites that can help you with your summer travels, including free packing lists!

Scribbit added a great free summer activity that you can do with your little ones this summer. How about letting them be an archaeologist for a day?

Mommy Secrets shares her grandmother’s homemade chocolate ice cream recipe. Are you hungry yet?

101 Cookbooks has a yummy recipe for a Skinny Omelette.

LifeHacker shares a great way you can organize your frequently used CD’s.

Creative Organizing shares tips for weeding through your children’s toys.

Storybook Woods shares pictures of her beautiful vintage sewing chest. I want, I want, I want!

The Simple Dollar compares the cost of making your own laundry detergent versus the cost of the Costco brand. Is there really a savings?

Simply Thrifty shares tips for fighting stains.

Product Review: Fruity Cheerios

I got the opportunity to try a newer product from General Mills called Fruity Cheerios. Yup, it is the same old favorite that you grew up with as a kid, but now with a fruity kick! I was so excited to try these because one of my favorite cereals is Fruit Loops and I was hoping that these would be a similar (but healthier) version of this.

These are absolutely delicious! They still have the original Cheerios flavor, but have a fruity coating on the outside. I would eat these every day of the week if I could!

The children loved these too, but I hid them away and was stingy with them because as a mom, there are few things in life that are just for me. I now see why my mom was always hiding food around our house for herself because nothing is just for you when you have little ones constantly wanting whatever you are eating.

I would highly recommend this cereal to anyone who is a Cheerios lover, or a Fruit Loops lover. They are sweet, but not too sweet. They are still healthy, but a bit more sugary then their original version.

Your kids will love these, so be sure to hide a box for yourself!

As a side note: Modern Mom is currently running a Fruity Cheerios photo contest and they have picked their ten finalists. The winner is chosen based on the number of votes, so please head over there and help to pick the winning picture.

Many thanks to General Mills for this product review opportunity!

Sound Off: What was your favorite cereal growing up? Are you currently hiding anything in your cupboards or fridge? Shhhhh…we won’t tell!

Check it Out: How to Be a Budget Fashionista


I was browsing around the beauty & fashion section in our library, when I saw this book and had to read it! I am a girl who is on a tight budget, but who also enjoys keeping up with fashion news and trends, and I wanted to know how I could do that without breaking the bank. How to Be a Budget Fashionista by Kathryn Finney is such a fantastic book and I recommend it to every woman! I have several people in mind already that I would like to give this to for a Christmas gift. I am sure you know people in your life who NEED this book to stop spending ridiculous amounts of money on clothes…money that they don’t have to spend in the first place.

This book is a great basic guide book for showing you that you truly can be fashionable without spending an arm and a leg to do it. The author was actually a woman who fell into the trap of spending more money than she earned on buying clothing. She wanted to stay fashionable, but found herself swimming in a sea of debt and buyer’s remorse.

Pulling herself up by her brand-name boots, she decided to pull herself out of the trap and figure out how she could look good for less. She learned ways that she could still look good without spending a mint to do it.

In the book, Ms. Finney offers great suggestions for basic items you can look for to make a good basic wardrobe. She discloses great department and superstore brands that you can hunt for, to substitute for the expensive stuff, and shares her bargaining secrets for getting the looks you crave for less.

The thing that I absolutely loved about this book was that she ENCOURAGES thrift shopping for items and gives a listing of details to look for when shopping and brand names that you can keep your eye out for. Many of her own favorite pieces were items she found when doing her thrifting, so she actually lives by the principles she shares with her readers.

I devoured this book in one sitting and passed it on to a friend. She devoured it too and we got to chat a lot about the things we enjoyed from her list. Not only that, but we patted ourselves on the back for being so fashionably conscious that we had some of the listed as must-haves!

I couldn’t get enough of this book, so I was pleased to see that Kathryn maintains a site and forum where she shares more fashion tips & deals with her readers. If you like to listen to Podcasts, she also does interviews with the big names in fashion on how to look good for less!

Sound Off: My dear fashionistas, what is your favorite piece in your wardrobe and where did you purchase it?

Your Blogging Story Carnival: The MomAdvice Story

Chilihead has started a carnival dedicated towards people sharing about how they got their start in the blogging world. It has been interesting to read everyone’s story and their tips on how they began their blogging journey. If you are a blogging momma, I encourage you to take part in this and read the entries! What could be better inspiration than that?

Here is my story…

How did you start blogging?

This is a tough question to answer, but since I had probably never heard of the term “blogging” before, I am sure that my techy hubby had suggested it as another outlet for us to get our site to be more known.

I had wanted to blog about motherhood and my children, but found it too creatively challenging and also didn’t feel that it was very cohesive with our website efforts. I made the decision to turn it around and make it focus more on saving money and it seemed to mesh better with my personality and was a great way to share some quick tips versus writing an entire article on a subject.

Did you intend to be a blog with a big following? If so, how did you go about it?

No, I never expected to have anyone really reading it except for my friends and family. It was quite the shocker that anyone would read it, as I really don’t think I am all that interesting! I was just hoping for a few people so it was an incredible surprise that anyone was actually reading it.

What do you hope to achieve or accomplish with your blog? Have you been successful? If not, do you have a plan to achieve those goals?

My goal has been to inspire people to be creative with their money. I try to focus on not what you can do WITHOUT, but what you can do WITH. I want people to know that they don’t have to live a life of sacrifice, just because they are trying to live within a budget, but that they can learn to be creative so that they can have everything they have ever wanted without spending money they don’t have.

I am not an extremist and I hope that appeals to people. I try to be reasonable with my ideas and let people know that I am actually going through the journey myself with them. I am learning right along with everyone else and constantly discovering new ways to save. They might not be for everyone, but I hope that in some small way, it can have a positive impact on your finances.

I do feel like I am reaching my goals because the emails and comments I receive from my readers helps me feel validated. Your comments do mean so much…more than words can say. For me, I try and have a conversation with people. I want them to interact with me. If you are having a conversation with someone and all you hear is silence on the other end…well, sometimes you just want to hang up. I try to keep talking, but it does mean a lot to hear something back!!

What do you know now that you wish you’d known when you started?

I think I was trying to hard to retain my audience and was not trying hard enough to redirect people to other blogs. The blogging community can be very supportive of one another. It is important to share what you read with your readers, and redirect people to other blogs that have great posts.

Once a week, I do a Notebook entry where I share great things I have read throughout the week. I learned that by sharing these links with others, that blogs found out about me and started linking to me for other things. I started to gain traffic through my efforts and also developed some really great friendships with some fellow bloggers. I wouldn’t trade any of that for the world!

Being stingy with my readership was not beneficial, but sharing the love has been an incredible way to get more readers and to keep them coming back to our blog.

Do you make money with your blog?

Yes, I do receive money from my blogging efforts. Our website has advertisements throughout and we receive revenue from our advertisers. The money I bring in does fluctuate depending on the amount of page views we have or how much particular campaigns are paying out each month. I feel very blessed to be able to contribute any money towards our household income and to be able to do what I love AND be home with my children is more than I could ever ask for!

Does your immediate or extended family know about your blog? If so, do they read it? If not, why?

Yes, I tell everyone and their mom about my blog. Because I just write about money, I don’t feel like I need to have any real sense of privacy on that topic. I don’t think they necessarily read it, but they know it is out there!

What two pieces of advice would you give to a new blogger?

1. Festivals and Carnivals can be a great way to get more exposure and new readers coming to your site. If you go to Blog Carnival, you can see all of the carnivals and festivals that are taking place right now. Set up an account and submit your entries to these. You can also contact the Festival or Carnival owners and find out if you can host one week. This can be another great way to build up your traffic.

2. Don’t write a post just to have something up for the day. I think it is far more important to put out one good post rather than three posts that will not be remembered. I try and approach my blog entries as mini-articles. People expect a certain style of writing from me and I try and make the posts actually have some good meat to them. If you write well (don’t forget your spell check!!), people will appreciate that and want to read more from you!

Be sure to check out the other entries and thanks to Chilihead for putting together such a great carnival!!


The Gift Closet Part Four: Baby Gifts

Well, we are quickly working our way through this series and I hope that I have offered some creative gift solutions for you. If you haven’t been following this series, I had been asked about creating a gift closet to help save your family money. In the first section, I discussed some ways that you could present your gifts. Next, I shared some ideas for thrifty graduate gifts. Most recently though, I discussed some money-smart ideas for wedding gifts.

Today I wanted to share some ideas for baby gifts. What could be more joyous than another life entering the world and what could be more fun to buy than little baby clothes? I find myself really wanting to splurge in this category, just because baby stuff is so gosh darn cute! Who can resist those frilly dresses they have for little girls? I also have a hard time resisting little man clothes- blazers, khakis, and polo shirts are some of my favorite purchases. Unfortunately, this momma is on a tight budget, so I have to hold myself back when it comes to gifts like this.

Here are some of my frugal ideas for baby gifts that will be remembered:

1. Dinners- Meals for new mothers are a fabulous gift to give and cost next to nothing, if you make smart menu choices. I love taking meals to new mothers because I remember how much I appreciated those meals when I received them. You can prepare a meal fresh, or stock up a new mom’s freezer with dinners that her family can eat when she is too exhausted to prepare anything. I have some thrifty meal ideas and some tips on how to transport that meal to the new mother in my past entries.

2. Make a Diaper Cake-Be sure to read this entry on how to make a cake. There are some additional great ideas under the comments so make sure to read those too! I love making these and love how impressive the whole package looks when it is done. To me, when someone makes something, that is more special than anything that anyone could buy. It shows that they cared by investing time, that they probably did not have to spare, to make something fantastic just for me!

You could also do different variations on this same idea with a Diaper Wreath (thanks to Jenn for the hint on that one!) for the new mother.

3. Babysitting Services- I love to make gift coupons for people to tuck within their cards and what could a new mother want more than a night away? I love to offer my babysitting services to help a mom out so that she can enjoy a night on the town with her husband or just to go get her hair cut (BY HERSELF!). This is a really good gift for a mom who is on a tight budget and can’t afford to hire a sitter or a mom who has more than one child and never gets a moment of peace.

If you wanted to add a little gift to go along with it, try a gift certificate from Restaurant.com. They make a fabulous gift and you only spend a fraction of the value of the certificate. You can read my personal review of these certificates in one of my past posts.

4. Magazine Subscriptions- Ask the mother if she is receiving any parenting magazines and offer to buy her a subscription. Read my post on purchasing magazine subscriptions very inexpensively on Ebay. Many times there are packages of magazines that you can buy with two or more parenting magazines in the package, which make a great gift set. No one will know that you did not splurge for a full price subscription, and it is something she can enjoy all year long!

5. Capture Memories- You can make a beautiful memory box with little or no crafty talent, and it will be a gift that the mother can truly use. Purchase a box from your local craft store (I love to use those Michael’s coupons for these types of purchases) and decorate it with paints, ribbon, wrapping paper, buttons- whatever you have around your house. If you are close to the mother, you could tuck your own personal note in about how much you love the child. The mother can store their little hospital ID bracelet, their hat they wore at the hospital and notes from family & friends. It is a wonderful gift and is also a very personal one.

6. Start Saving- One gift that I love to give and receive is a piggy bank for the new baby. What could be better than getting their child on the right foot towards saving money? You could tuck a savings bond in with the bank to get their bank started.

Sound Off: What is your favorite baby gift to give? What was the best baby gift you have ever received?